May 28, 2011

Chasing Jannah: "Um, sorry. I don't want to marry you afterall..." and a Few Other Issues Concerning a Potential Muslim Husband

Chasing Jannah: "Um, sorry. I don't want to marry you afterall..." and a Few Other Issues Concerning a Potential Muslim Husband

This post really set me off. HOW RUDE! I can't believe a man would try to get someone to marry him by reminding the woman how unfortunate she is and because she is a divorcee she should accept him. His offer? She needs to give up her rights for maintenance and mahr but he has all of his full rights...


Women aren't cars that depreciate in value once you take it out of the lot and in to your home! COME ON!

May 27, 2011

AWW, shucks

I got my packet of seeds in the mail! too cool! Seedfolks Seed Library—

First, I loved the idea of the re purpose magazine ad, it oddly felt personal. Second, love the little tag “SEED IT, EAT IT!”   Third, it was my first reward for backing a project on Kickstarter.

Its awesome how I was here thinking of ways to reduce waste in my little world specially after reading the story of stuff and my own personal promise and I get this in the mail! Reminding me that if I do take the plunge I wont be the only one swimming.

May 25, 2011

ama thug it...yeah that's what I'll do!

I have been reading and currently working on a book review for The Story of Stuff: The Impact of Overconsumption on the Planet, Our Communities, and Our Health-And How We Can Make It Better by Annie Leonard and I have decided that I have too much stuff. DUH! Since the previous post  (HERE) with that lady accusing me of dressing my daughter as a boy and trying to change her, instead of buying new clothes for her I will just make them! I have the skills plus A LOT of clothes that no longer fit me and instead of making tons of diapers for her like I have currently been doing, I should just make clothes.

So that is my goal, for a whole year I will not be purchasing new clothes for my children, instead I will be repurposing what I already have until there is no more. I want to make those frilly dresses (will be taking pics of the items and posting them on this blog) and clothes for my toddler. It feels more personal. Btw, when I mean repurpose my stuff, I don't mean like a couple of shirts or pants, I have BAGS and BAGS of construction grade garbage bags filled with stuff. It costs me more to wash them and donate (some aren't in such great shape) and also more if I wash them and try to sell them online.  Seriously! 

Since my kids do need clothes since they are growing, I might as well do something good for the environment, reduce my spending and reduce the clutter. Apparently doing all of the above enhances your quality of life.

I already own a Portable Mini 2-speed Sewing Machine (price has gone up since I bought it a couple of days ago) and Brother 1034D 3/4 Lay-In Thread Serger. I already have the tools so I will put them to good use.

How about you all? What do you do with your stuff?

May 23, 2011

but, but, but WHY?!

I feel insulted, angry and frankly violated.
We were invited to someones house after our class this Sunday and we accepted because I want to meet new people. WELL, it started off know the usual polite small talk then it took a turn for the worst. First I was criticized for wearing a niqab with sweatpants (mind you they USED to belong to hubby so they are pretty darn big XXL), then because my daughter was dressed as a boy, apparently that is a sin. WHAT?! She is a BABY! She will wear whatever I put on her and its not like we are swimming in money to go buy her pink frilly things when she has perfectly good clothes that her brother previously wore.  

I will be buying her clothes when the summer comes and we will be going out more, but in the mean time those browns, beiges, greens and navy blues will do just fine. Do people realize that the whole "do not dress like the opposite sex" has different meaning depending on culture? Do they realize that in my culture men don't wear skirts (aka longi, izar) or dresses (thobes)? I KNOW THEY ARE NOT SKIRTS AND DRESSES I am just making a point on how that looks to people unfamiliar with them. 

Anyway, she took it upon herself to try to CHANGE my daughter. *Hyperventilates* you guys know how particular I am about my children and who gets to change them. WHAT THE HELL?! She covered my daughter in a pink shirt even though her shirt was PURPLE, she attempted to REMOVE that shirt but I grabbed my daughter from her reach. She then tried to remove her pants and put TIGHTS, TIGHTS on my daughter. NO! I said NO, DAMN IT! and she condescendingly said, "don't tell me its because of 'modesty' cuz people go to far." I believe in comfort over looks, my daughter is wearing cloth diapers and a loose cargo pants WHY am I going to squeeze her in to tights? LET THE GIRL BREATHE!

I will not be returning to her house EVER. She crossed way too many lines and her superior attitude removed any chances of me overlooking this incident.  Yes I am a convert and still learning the religion but you attending a couple of seminars and some Sunday classes DOES NOT MAKE YOU A SCHOLAR. Because if you WERE a real scholar you would have observed the MANNERS that they are taught and have to observe.  I love being around TRULY religious people as they are a joy to be around and I learn from them.  (not the fakers who use it as a screen) I love being around people who are not religious and don't pretend to be, because they usually admit they do not know and don't try to force things on me. I hate being around ignorant people who don't even know they are ignorant while simultaneously telling others they are superiorsbased on the knowledge they do not possess.

Hubs says I am too open with people and I guess that may be true but you get what you see. I don't see the need to hide that I am a convert, or that my family is of  various religions and ethnicities. I give you who I am, not a facade of who I want to be or who I was. You get me as I stand before you today. I don't curse, I don't share my sins and I respect your boundaries if I know of them and if I don't and accidentally cross them, once I DO know I apologize 'til kingdom come.' I mean hubs doesn't pretend to be someone he is not either but he does not reveal ANYTHING not pertinent to the topic or that may be considered personal. So I guess in comparison I am WAAAAAAAYYY to open.  He is an enigma wrapped in a riddle shrouded in a beard wearing a thobe.

May 20, 2011

Trifling Machines of INFINITE CUTENESS!

am on to you!

So I purchased this cutie (Portable Mini 2-speed Sewing Machine with 100 Piece Kit) and it works! SHOCKINGLY  it works! Isn't that a sad day when you purchase something that says it does something but you are so happy when it turns out it's true! aww, trifling marketers and their cons!

I am very impressed with this cutie but there is a downside, I didn't realized it was battery operated. I can still make it work if I buy rechargeable batteries and they can in turn be used with my son's toys too so it wouldn't be too much of a strain.

Another problem is that the "off" button and the "on" button do the same speeds it up at DOUBLE SPEED! DANGEROUS! I mean really dangerous. So in order for me to change or thread my needle I will need to remove the batteries first, press the tiny little foot pedal to make sure the 'electricity' has been drained.

Because of the OBVIOUS danger to personal safety, should I return it or just keep it and take precautions?

I worked with heavy duty industrial machines at my moms factory, you know the ones that pull, cut and well as some who have 8 inch exposed blades SOOOOO I am pretty good with the precautions but then again those machines are MONSTROUS looking! this one is soo "am dainty and cute like a butterfly on a warm summer night, I just wanna be loved, will you love me?" 

and then BAM! you are in the emergency room with a missing arm! vile trifling machines.

May 18, 2011

I want to quit blogging

I love blogging  and getting my thoughts organized and splattered all over the web BUT I just got hired to write articles (tentative offer). YAY! but now apparently they need me to have a more professional blog and I also have a stalker I have not been able to brush how do I move to another blogging platform and let you all know but not the stalker? decisions, decisions. decisions.

Another thing I was grappling with was how I was going to sign those articles but thanks to some help from my niqabis on facebook page that has been resolved.  I was thinking of signing with my real name but a friend who has done that and is still dealing with the repercussion warned me against it. PLUS if ppl knew my name they could just google me and show up at my house. SCARY AS HECK!

What would  YOU do?

May 17, 2011

I submitted my application to FIT NYC!

now its the waiting game...will I be accepted? INSHAALLAH! Making du'a and starting to apply for scholarships.  WOW I only procrastinated for nearly THREE years.  subhanaAllah.

Life is exciting again, I am making moves seeing if it pans out, make some more and overall taking charge of my life.  Ramit's class is REALLY helping me out and I am getting better and better at pitching ethically. Its amazing how much we hold ourselves back based on misinformation and insecurities.

Like he says and I am paraphrasing, a year from now you will be one year older, what would you like to be doing  with yourself?

May 10, 2011

DAMN am pretty!

remember TLC's Unpretty song? back when it came out I had no access to the internet to search for the lyrics and I never purchased a CD so I just just JUST realized I used to say "damn AM pretty" where the line is "damn UNpretty" lol. Self esteem...I gots it.

hearing aid...needed. LOL!


I wish i could tie you up in my shoes
Make you feel unpretty too
I was told I was beautiful
But what does that mean to you
Look into the mirror who's inside there
The one with the long hair
Same old me again today (yeah)

My outsides are cool
My insides are blue
Every time I think I'm through
It's because of you
I've tried different ways
But its all the same
At the end of the day
I have my self to blame
I'm just trippin

You can buy your hair if it won't grow
You can fix your nose if he says so
You can buy all the make-up
that M.AC. can make
But if you can't look inside you
Find out who am I too
Be in a position to make me feel
So damn unpretty
I'll make you feel unpretty to

Never insecure until I met you
Now I'm being stupid
I used to be so cute to me
Just a little bit skinny
Why do I look to all these things
To keep you happy
Maybe get rid of you
And then i'll get back to me (hey)

My outsides looks cool
My insides are blue
Every time I think I'm through
It's because of you
I've tried different ways
But it's all the same
At the end of the day
I have myself to blame
Keep on trippin

May 8, 2011

DNA testing on racists

I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE for racists to get their DNA checked to find out their genealogy (genealocial DNA test) and have their tests publicly published. It would probably create more violence and craziness but maybe it would wake them up to the reality that there is NO "pure race".  We are choice or by force (conquistadores, rapist et al).

why the rant? watching gangland and racist groups. Its infuriating and fascinating (the geeky anthropologist in me loves to get a "glimpse".

May 6, 2011

ha, ha, ha

so am bothering the crap out of my husband while he is at work texting him my version of corny love songs and making them even cornier (its a passion of ours).  After beautifully belting/texting R-Kelly's masterpiece I Believe I Can Fly my son gets up and tells me, "ma, am leaving be back Isha (night prayer mind you its early dhuhr)."


Who does this little boy think he is dictating his comings and goings? He thinks he's grown! He is 2.5 years old and needs to sit back down and finish his food.  Anyway, I found it hilarious enough NOT to laugh in front of him but I did text my hubby with what he said.  Hubs texts me back

"Maybe he can't stand your singing. lol"

yeah, wait until you get home.

May 3, 2011

May she heal completely

When I heard about Lara Logan's sexual assault at first I didn't want to believe it because I am so fond of her and as a survivor of sexual violence I NEVER EVER want another human being to experience it. I made du'a that it wasn't true that inshaAllah it never happened.  When it was confirmed my heart sunk and I made du'a for her and against her attackers. 

After hearing her talk about her attack, I cried. May Allah swt heal her physical, emotional and spiritual wounds completely and may this not break her spirit. AMEEN.
to see the full interview go to (it has ads)

May the women who closed ranks around her and tried to protect her be rewarded and kept safe from experiencing this evil. AMEEN. 

May her attackers, instigators and facilitators of this assault on her be brought to justice, may they be shamed publicly and be known publicly as sexual offenders. AMEEN.  They think they have gotten away with this crime but we may not know your names or faces but Allah swt does know and on the day of judgment you will have to account for your transgression on her.  You wont have anonymity then.

May my progeny never experience such evils or perpetrate such evils on anyone else. AMEEN.

May 2, 2011

I am running for a scholarship and sucking majorly *du'as needed*

lol! Remember that 7-10 grand seminar I wanted? Well he is having a scholarship and the deadline was yesterday at midnight. Any who I created a video like requested but the WHOLE thing plays in ONE second. DEAR LORD! I tried fixing it but got nowhere... :(

Please make du'a I get it because it will take a miracle to compete with some of those videos. You don't need to understand my desire for taking the class other than I WANT IT! I want it sooo bad!

what do you think?
is it REALLY bad? or just bad?  Anyone want to help me out with the video?