May 27, 2010

You can find me in the....

in the mosque! bottle full of zamzam... go, go, go.

aight peeps!

It seems that between my fams,  HUGE PERSONAL NEWS, a couple of my pages and my sites I don't have much time for my blog anymore.  I will keep on blogging just not as frequently as I used to.  I am on FB a lot so anyone who wants to contact me you can do so via my blog profile below!

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♥ ♥ ♥ FLOTILLA ♥ ♥ ♥

Following a Press Conference in Turkey this morning, the Flotilla will set sail in a few hours. 9 ships carrying 15,000 tonnes of aid, and 750 passengers will begin a journey that will see them reach Gaza in 48 hours.

Israel have declared that they will stop this flotilla with force.


You guys have NO IDEA how excited I am about this!! Finally someone willing to brave the blockade to help the needy of Gaza!!  I hope they are successful and I hope they aren't a sham! Make du'a for their mission and keep all the volunteers in your prayers as well.  I also read in another article that one of the ships is named after Rachel Corrie
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The MV Rachel Corrie, a cargo ship named for the American activist who was killed in the Gaza Strip in 2003, is one of eight ships poised to carry humanitarian aid to Gaza.

“We feel really honored,” said Craig Corrie, Rachel's father
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Pink Anonymous: Never doubt that a small donation CAN and DOES make a difference. Take the Gaza Aid Flotilla, it was paid for by donations ranging from $1.39 from an individual in Brunei to €300,000 (£256,000) collected in Malaysia. MashaAllah, Alhamdulillah, Allahu Akbar!
- Pink Anons

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May 23, 2010

sorry for the short post but I HAD to share

Hubs: why is your passport on your chair?
Me: My butt wanted to travel.
Hubs: *smacks forehead and walks away*

POWNED son! After nearly 4 years of marriage he should definitely know better than to set me up for a joke like that, I mean COME ON...should have seen that one coming.

May 22, 2010

I do do

Jack Donaghy : The world is made by those who control their own destiny. It isn't made by those who don't do. It's made by those who do do, which is what made me the man I am. I do do.

Its funnier if you read it out loud. LOL. I love 30 Rock. They are just AWESOME.

May 19, 2010

7 Random Facts (tagged by Labella Iman)


I was tagged by Labella Iman
  1. I am Lazy.  yes I am  VERY lazy.  Embarrassingly lazy, thank GAWD yall visit my blog instead of coming to my house because you would be disappointed in me. Despite my obvious laziness towards manual labor I must say my kitchen has to be spotless. IT HAS TO BE and my dishes MUST be squeaky clean.  I will not eat at your house if I see your kitchen is gross and nasty.  You may be growing all kinds of fungus all over your house but as long as your kitchen is spotless we are cool.  

  2. I check this  video out WAY too many times and I dance to it. yes I do. Can't touch this!  Who said white boys can't dance?

  3. I work out to the following clips....don't laugh

  4. I am the lead singer in my airband....we are AWESOME!  I posted on facebook that I was forming an airband and I got some volunteers and like I said...we are AWESOME.  Don't know what an airband is or does?  look at the clip below it was my inspiration.

  5. I just ate half of a giant watermelon in one sitting. ((burp))

  6. I am currently full of myself and I think I am the hottest thing to have walked the earth since 1985.  OH YEAH BABY!! You see the little girl in the clip below?  TOTALLY GOT HER BEAT!!  who cares that I am like 20+ years older than her?  she aint got nufffing on me!

  7. Although I look mature don't let my charms full ya, I have the maturity level of a kindergartner whose bugger has gone missing (most likely stolen).
Jaz, Kachik, NeverEver, Alabaster Muslim,  Hispanic Muslimah, tagged YOUR IT!

    ps. I enjoy manual labor when am upset, I clean like no other.

    May 18, 2010

    BURQA RAGE in France and Bill 94 in Canada

    A 60-year-old lawyer ripped a Muslim woman's Islamic veil off in a row in a clothing shop in what police say is France's first case of "burka rage". 

     read more here
    I hope it doesn't become a trend.  I am still upset that anyone feels they have the right to put their hands on another person or their belongings. HOW DARE YOU.

    Also today is May 18th Day of Action! Say NO to Bill 94! So after today we will know if it was passed or not. If you are not familiar with Bill 94
    Quebec Premier Jean Charest has proposed legislation which, if approved by the National Assembly of Quebec, would deny essential government services, public employment, educational opportunities, and health care to people who wear facial coverings. Bill 94 specifically targets Muslim women who wear the niqab (face veil).
    Listen to the video below, before I thought that it would only apply to government stuff but apparently it will apply to the private sector as well.  So what other alternative would a niqabi have?  take it off, leave the country or keep it but have no access to health care, education or employment (whether public or private)? Great choices.  Way to liberate women.

    May 15, 2010

    Told you so

    In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
    Peace be with you السلام عليكم

    Remember that poem "First they came..." about people not standing up for the rights of others?  Well this whole niqab debacle which I still believe is a red herring to distract us from issues like our failing economies is proving very fruitful for the opposition.  Because at best they diverted our attention from their lack of leadership or inaction on tough issues and at worst they passed something that further hinders a woman's right to dress how she wants, plus it will make excellent talking points on the campaign trail when they try to represent how conservative they are.  Anyway I recently posted a link to an article on Niqabis on facebook about Europe's burqa wars and this excerpt is what caught my attention the most.
    Wilders's party gained in recent local elections, and with general elections scheduled for June, he will probably gain more seats in parliament. Last fall, Wilders suggested a 1,000 euro excise tax on headscarves, which he dubbed a "head-rag tax."
    read more here.
    I wonder if they will then used that money to further oppress people? And yes, its this June 2010 that this man and his party may become the ruling party in the Netherlands.  All you need is one person to set the precedence and others will soon follow.  

    So, is it convenient for you to act now? or are you going to wait until laws are enacted that make it legal to strip a person of their right to live based on their religion, race, social status or age?  I know its kind of extreme but history seems to teach us otherwise. I think people fail to realize that corrupt people rarely go for the kill without first testing the waters.  They test out how people react by letting a racist remark slip, will they be held accountable or given a pass?  Then they up the ante until they have reached their goals.  Its not unlike shaytan, he doesn't come to you and tell you "disobey Allah swt" because your reaction will be "HELL TO THE NO!"  What he does instead is slowly get you to indulge in what is halal and then start introducing things like not praying your prayers at the beginning of its time but wait until it is almost up.  Sooner or later you will miss your first prayer.  Perfect example would be the story of Barsisa  and you will see how Shaytan got this great worshiper of Allah swt to prostrate before him by slowly breaking him down. 
    "THEY CAME FIRST for the Communists,
    and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Communist.

    THEN THEY CAME for the Jews,
    and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Jew.

    THEN THEY CAME for the trade unionists,
    and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a trade unionist.

    THEN THEY CAME for me
    and by that time no one was left to speak up."

    "First they came ..." is a famous statement attributed to Pastor Martin Niemöller (1892–1984) about the inactivity of German intellectuals following the Nazi rise to power and the purging of their chosen targets, group after group.
    Who will speak for you?

    May 14, 2010

    wow. just wow

    subhanaAllah. I hurt for Dr. Finkelstein, to have lost all but 2 members of his family must be horrendous and for people to use their death to further their interest must add insult to injury.  I hope his suffering is alleviated.

    hey hot stuff, where have you been?

    There has been a lot going on in our house the last couple of months and with his masters and my umm (let's just leave it at that).  It is easy for you to forget that awesome hubby of yours and I totally did (oops).  It started a couple of weeks ago when I started to notice how hot my hubs was.  I looked away a couple of times because I thought it was "haraaam" and then quickly realized "wait, that's mine!"

    I mean dang boy!  mashaAllah.  So I started complimenting him a lot and just blatantly hitting on him.  I am a complete groupie and wasn't ashamed of it.  His reaction was TOO CUTE!  lol. He gets flustered and forgets things. lol.  It started as a nice thing but now I just torture him with it.  Yes, I am evil.  

    I am grateful that I realized what was going on because I am not sure how long I was going without appreciating what I have in my life.  AstaghfirAllah. Yeah, I have a son and he takes a lot of my time but I shouldn't completely leave my husband out to dry. I suspect it started this semester because he has been absolutely swamped by school.  I guess this is how marriages fall apart, they stop appreciating each other and sooner or later someone else appreciates them.  Don't let this happen to you.  Your assignment is to find your spouse and show them love and tell them why you are grateful to have them in your life.

    May 12, 2010

    What Would YOU Do?

    In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
    Peace be with you السلام عليكم

    I couldn't embed the video but here is the link (  So the premise is that a drunk girl being forced out of the bar by a stranger. She is clearly letting everyone in ear shot know she does not know this man nor does she want to go with him.  What would you do?

    This scenario is sadly based in real life where women go to clubs or bars and after being inebriated either by choice or by a date rape drug are taken out of the establishment and raped.  Some return home but sadly others don't.  Anyway when they did the experiment EVERY single time the man tried to take her out of the bar someone intervened and kept her safe. mashAllah (specially since it was on MY home state).  Now, they changed it so that she would look like a party girl (you know the myth, you got raped because of what you were wearing...) and see if anyone would intervene.  MashaAllah they did (different crowd) and didn't allow him to remove her.  Sadly in this scenario one group DOES allow her to leave.  What made it sad was the fact that one of the men even cheered the guy as he was walking away with the girl and made it known he was jealous of the "score."  The saddest part, HE WAS AN OFF DUTY COP. subhanaAllah.  The civilians young or old stood up for her regardless of how she was dressed and a cop didn't.  I know they are only humans but who do you call when you need help?  the cops.  Who do you report rape to? the cops. 

    He tried to give some bs story about why he didn't intervene but that was bull. I mean cops see horrendous things and I am sure that he has seen his fair share of rape victims (Jersey Shore). So why didn't he stand up?

    I personally have in the past kept inebriated women from leaving with strangers I have also barricaded my friends in their dorm rooms so that they wouldn't wander campus.  Since I am a Muslim and wouldn't be in a bar it is hard to say that I would keep him from taking her out.  If she were to walk in to an establishment I am in while inebriated and someone tried to remove her, I would say something.

    The other scenarios were more race related.  What would you do if you see a man stealing a bike? what if he was white? black? or a blonde bombshell (girl)?

    Results: One person out of hundreds who saw him (white dude) with all his tools and he was honest when asked if this was his bike reported him.  The actors HAD to make sure you knew they were stealing the bike so they gave all the indicators.  When the black dude tried to steal the bike an angry mob formed.  My heart ached because the actor afterward said he had been watching the white dude and they did nothing to him.  When it was the girl men actually HELPED her steal it, even after she told them she was stealing it.  One lady was about to report her, when her husband goes to the girl if she needs help even when his wife is telling him to leave her alone.  subhanaAllah. He totally disrespected his wife in public over a girl he did not know and helped her steal the bike.  How sad.  I don't think that marriage is going to last for much longer.

    What would I do? I would call the cops but I wouldn't try to stop it myself because I don't want to get hurt. Specially if I am out with my son. 

    May 8, 2010

    This is why you don't rant about family

    In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
    Peace be with you السلام عليكم

    Remember my NOT the Mama rant?  That same in law walked in some crazy heat  today after he came from work trying to find me this specific lettuce I was craving like a feign.  Bought me the cucumbers, tomatoes and everything else I could possibly need for my salad.  He forgot the cucumbers and went back outside to hunt for them.  I didn't even ask him for this.  Although I am so grateful because there was no way I could have gotten them since my hubs is doing a group project that was due like last week.  I have been bed bound for a day and a half know with mild fever and I lost my appetite BUT I still feel the hunger pains.

    He is 70 years old and he has no car. May Allah swt bless him with the highest jannah ameen.  Yeah, so who feels like a jerk bag? ME.

    NOTE to self: Don't rant about fams.

    img taken from zazzle.

    ps. He kept my son while I ate my salad (currently eating it).  It is a huge bowl of lettuce, tomatoes, cucumbers, dried cranberry, raisins and creamy italian.  (I also sprinkled parmessan cheese). YUM!

    A Rape Survivor is STILL a Chaste Woman

    In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
    Peace be with you السلام عليكم

     This is my note for today on my Niqab page on facebook. I wanted to share with you all.
    Book 38, Number 4366:

    Narrated Wa'il ibn Hujr:
    When a woman went out in the time of the Prophet (peace be upon him) for prayer, a man attacked her and overpowered (raped) her.

    She shouted and he went off, and when a man came by, she said: That (man) did such and such to me. And when a company of the Emigrants came by, she said: That man did such and such to me. They went and seized the man whom they thought had had intercourse with her and brought him to her.

    She said: Yes, this is he. Then they brought him to the Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him).

    When he (the Prophet) was about to pass sentence, the man who (actually) had assaulted her stood up and said: Apostle of Allah, I am the man who did it to her.

    He (the Prophet) said to her: Go away, for Allah has forgiven you. But he told the man some good words (Abu Dawud said: meaning the man who was seized and wrongfully charged), and of the man who had had intercourse with her, he said: Stone him to death.

    He also said: He has repented to such an extent that if the people of Medina had repented similarly, it would have been accepted from them.
    Three people are being addressed in this hadith,
    1. The woman who had been raped. There is no sin on her for what was done to her and therefore no punishment. She is still considered a chaste woman since she was not a participant of the deed.
    2. The man who was wrongfully accused. He was given a pleasant word and sent on his way
    3. The rapist. He received death. The punishment for rape is death.
    In Islamic criminal jurisprudence, the overwhelming majority of Muslim scholars believe that there is no punishment for a woman forced to have sex. According to a Sunni hadith, the punishment for committing rape is death, there is no sin on the victim, nor is there any worldly punishment ascribed to her. Most scholars treat rape as hiraba (disorder in the land).

    In Islamic military jurisprudence, classical jurists laid down severe penalties for rebels who use "stealth attacks" and "spread terror". In this category, Muslim jurists included abductions, poisoning of water wells, arson, attacks against wayfarers and travellers, assaults under the cover of night, and rape. The punishment for such crimes were severe, including death, regardless of the political convictions and religion of the perpetrator.

    Don't let the ignorant lie to you, it was NOT your fault, YOU did NOT cause this, YOU did NOT ask for it and YOU are NOT the disgraced one.

    It is up to you to decide what you will do in this situation. If you want to press charges or not is up to you. I personally advocate pressing charges because at the very least it creates a record for the perpetrator. IF he were to do this to another woman and she decides to take him to court it makes it more likely that he will be convicted and get a stiffer sentence. It is impossible to go around warning people of sexual predators but with a record he must register as a sex offender and it is public knowledge for whoever does a background check.

    Keep all the people who have suffered through a sexual assault in your du'as because it is a daily struggle.

    May 7, 2010


    In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
    Peace be with you السلام عليكم

    my son in the past couple of months started calling me, mama, mom, mommy, mami, amma, and a combination of all of them.  Cute isn't it?  well yes and no because he did exactly what Stewie does below.

    Anyway, I live with my in laws and one in law in particular REALLY, REALLY, REALLY loves my son.  To the point that I felt I was being usurped as a mother as well as my husband's role as the father.  I know its uncomfortable to have this conversation with this person because most people complain that family is not as involved but mine was too involved.  I felt like I wasn't his parent but more of his surrogate mother.  When my son started calling me mom and mommy I was elated because he is totally a baba's boy and he lives for his baba.  So after 12+ months of baba, baba, baba he was finally calling ME out, I felt so special.

    Well, this person started to tell me that my son REALLY didn't mean mommy as in MOTHER but rather he calls EVERYONE that.  Ouch.  Can't you just let me dream? So whenever my son would say "mama, ammaa, mom, mommy" this person would answer, then the rest of the family started doing it too.  Not that the rest were doing it on purpose but it was what they had seen A LOT of.  So behind closed doors I threw a tantrum.  (mature aint it?) I told my husband how I felt and that it needed to stop because it is now bothering me.  I think he addressed it because whenever my son says "mommy" now they point at me or tell him I am in the room praying.  YAY!  The particular in law sometimes responds to mommy but my son calls him by his name (you know, uncle, grandpa that kinda name).  How hard is it that I AM THE MAMA! let me have my name!  dang it, I went through a unmedicated home birth,  my labor pains said that I at least deserve the title of mama. NOT to mention that I change and wash those cloth diapers.  Who has the boobies? ME.  

    I just can't help but act like a child and throw a tantrum when this topic comes up. I mean I feel like I am being erased.  I don't want to be erased. That is my baby boy (on loan from Allah swt) BUT it is MY amanah.  darng nagit AM THE MAMA!

    ps. Does this qualify as a rant? see sis rants-a-lot would be an appropriate name.

    May 6, 2010

    Hijra Rant

    In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
    Peace be with you السلام عليكم

    yes, this is yet another rant and it was inspired by facebook.  go figure.  I keep getting this advice about doing Hijra to a Muslim country and I just laugh. I mean WHAT Muslim country?  THERE ARE NONE! ABSOLUTELY NONE!!!  Those countries may have a majority Muslim population but their laws aren't.  I mean I have more freedom in the good old US of A than I would in Egypt where I can't go to class with my niqab.  I copy pasted the below advice and I must ask 
    1) where is it coming from?  
    2) what is the proof behind it? 
    3) are you even qualify to be giving this kind of advice?

    Anything in this font is MY opinionAnything in red is what I found the most shocking.
    Advice For Muslim Women Who Live In The West

    Praise be to Allaah.
    1 – The first thing you should do is to leave that kaafir land, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) disavowed himself of anyone who settles among the mushrikeen. Hence it is haraam for you to stay in the land of kufr, especially since you are there for the sake of work, and that is not one of the legitimate excuses for which you may be allowed to stay there.

    2 – You have to choose the Muslim land where people adhere most closely to modesty, chastity and commitment to Islam. It is well known that the Muslim lands vary in these matters, and not every country is a place where you could settle, unfortunately, rather that depends on your nationality and the laws of the land.

    3 – If you cannot move to that country, then you must fear Allaah, may He be exalted, and adhere to His commands in all your affairs, foremost among which must be guarding your families against disintegration and assimilation. You must pay attention to your children, both males and females, give them a good Islamic upbringing and a sense of connection to Islamic history, teach them the rulings of Islam, and teach them Arabic well.

    4 – The place where the Muslim family lives should be far removed from places of immorality. Conservative Muslim families should live together in one place so that they can support one another and help one another to obey Allaah, may He be exalted, and help one another to train and teach themselves and their children.

    It is haraam for you to give your children free rein in forming friendships with the children of the kuffaar. It is not permissible for you to allow your children to watch immoral shows and movies that destroy moral values. You must also pay attention to what they read and watch so that their thinking will not go astray and they will not lose their religious commitment.

    6 – Your family should have set times, even if they are short, when the entire family can get together and talk, so as to deal with problems faced by each family member before they grow worse and more complicated, or it becomes impossible to solve them.

    7 – You must also make good choices in the families with whom you mix, lest some of them have a negative influence on your family members and your efforts to raise them properly be wasted.

    8 – You should instill a hatred for this culture and its ways in the hearts of your children, and inform them that it is contrary to divine law and the sound nature of man. Give them examples and contrast it with Islamic morals, and instill a sense of connection with Islamic culture and its ways, and let them know that they will not stay in that land for long. (so wouldn't it be better to teach them to LOVE what Allah swt has made halal and to discourage bad behavior?  Why hate?  If it goes against Allah's commandments there is a natural dislike for such behavior. Its called our FITRAH.)

    9 – You should frequently visit the sacred land of Allaah in Makkah. Strive to perform Hajj every year and to do ‘Umrah more than once a year if you can, so as to strengthen your faith and strengthen your children’s bonds to Islam and the Muslims. Unfortunately we see great shortcomings in the Muslim communities who live in kaafir countries in this regard.  (maybe because we are BROKE? and all the visas require to even go anywhere are sometimes prohibitive of travel)

    10 – Build an Islamic library, including Islamic books, tapes and CDs, so that the family members can learn about their religion and refer easily to the rulings of Islam. Close the door to means of misguidance that may lead to their ignorance and corruption. Bring the al-Majd channel into your homes for the beneficial knowledge that it offers, and because they are trying to keep their channel free of women and music. You can also connect them to useful sites on the internet.

    In fact there is a great deal of advice that we could offer, because there is so much misguidance, deviance and immorality in those kaafir lands. Every aspect of life needs its own advice and guidance. But what we said in the beginning is full of advice, which is to leave that kaafir land and move to a Muslim land. Whoever stays in the kaafir lands must realize that Allaah will ask him about his flock on the Day of Resurrection, so let him prepare an answer.

    We ask Allaah to make it easy for you to leave that land and to make you steadfast in adhering to Islam and true guidance, and to make your children righteous callers to Islam.

    And Allaah is the Source of strength.
    omg.  NOW YOU know why I nearly had a heart attack and a brain aneurysm. It's hypocritical to say that we must HATE this culture when Asian/Arab cultures are revered as the example but not always for the parts that ARE compatible with Islam but rather the ones that aren't.  ALL cultures have good and bad to them and we need to keep what is compatible with Islam and discard the rest.  Also I remember listening to this in a speech and I just googled it from the biography of the Prophet (saw)
    the Prophet (pbuh) went to Abu Bakr's house and told him, 'Allah has told me that now is the time for us to leave Mecca.' 'Together?' asked Abu Bakr. 'Together', the Prophet (pbuh) replied. Abu Bakr wept for joy, because now he knew that the travelling companion he had been promised was the Prophet (pbuh) himself. Then he said,'O Messenger of Allah, these are the two camels which I have kept ready for this.' And so, the two of them left for a cave in Thawr, a mountain to the south of Mecca where they intended to hide. When they were out of the city the Prophet (pbuh) looked back and said, 'Of all Allah's earth, you are the dearest place to Allah and to me and if my people had not driven me out I would never have left you.
    SO he wouldn't have left Mecca if he hadn't been forced to? and this during a time when idols were in the kabaa and women did tawaf naked?  Also didn't the king of Abyssinia become Muslim around this time? was he ordered to do hijrah to a Muslim land which at the time would have been Medina RULED by the Prophet saw? No, he wasn't.  So why would I move to a non existent "Muslim land"?
    All the Muslims all over the world are part of this ummah, however, we all have different roles. Ilmfest (NJ). It was mentioned at the event (by Yasir Qadhi) that Allah swt will ask us about what we did for our communities. There are more ways to help this ummah than to migrate to other countries. Start locally. Sometimes we can do more for our brothers and sisters by using our resources we have available here.
    If you want to move to a Muslim majority country I am not bashing you, go ahead, its your choice.  What am saying is DO NOT SAY ITS HARAAM to stay in a country simply because the majority isn't Muslim. The only reason I would EVER do hijra is if an undisputed, proper khilafa is in place. UNTIL then, this is my home and I plan on staying here.

    Rant OVA....sorta

    {edit} imagine a family moves to (insert 'Muslim' country), lets just say they are unfortunate and the husband dies.  What then?  with no family to help her and some stupid laws banning women from driving or working in certain fields, what would happen to the widow and children?  Even though Islam commands us to help the widows and the orphans look at how they are treated?  Should I beg in the streets for my children when I can easily earn my living?  May Allah swt save me but if I ever have to go homeless I would rather take my chances in America. At least here I can take advantage of some social services while I get on my feet. 

    May 5, 2010

    am a hypo..this is a rant.

    In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
    Peace be with you السلام عليكم

    I have taken images, graphics or pictures I have found on the internet on my posts or profile pages without ever thinking or even giving credit (sorry, and I usually do give credit but I wasn't consistent). It has never bothered me because I didn't consider it stealing.  WELL, let's just say I spent a good chunk of my time this past year making graphics and using them on my facebook pages/notes.  Today I see a notification that a friend of mine has befriended so and so and I usually don't pay attention but the image got me.  IT WAS MY IMAGE! I painstakingly made it!  

    She had cropped out the information that belonged to my page and credit to me.  *stomps ground* MY IMAGE! at least give me credit dang it!

    So yeah I know its hypocritical specially since I have been taking without asking or giving credit but NO MORE sir. NO MORE.  Now that I am on the other side of the fence I realize how much it sucks.

    ***go ahead pick one up and throw it***

    May 4, 2010

    Culture and Islam

    In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
    Peace be with you السلام عليكم

    I am NOT a scholar and this is MY PERSONAL opinion.

    I have come to the opinion that you can have a culture, be proud of your culture/heritage and still be an excellent, outstanding Muslim.  Islam does not BAN cultural practices unless they conflict with Islam.  In some cultures praying and excessive reverence for your (dead) ancestors with the expectation that they will help you is widely practice, and as a Muslim you wouldn't participate in this practice.  It doesn't mean you disrespect your ancestors or speak ill of the dead but rather you don't give the respect due to Allah swt to any of His creations.  In other cultures pig is WIDELY eaten and it is part of many traditional plates, as a Muslim you would substitute pig meat for something else that is permissible.

    What gets me furious though is when a cultural practice is being passed of as Islamic and it fully conflicts with Islam.  Cultural practices may conform to Islam but they shouldn't be confused for Islam.  One reason I heard for a cultural practice being called Islamic is because that culture has been Muslim longer and therefore their culture is closer to Islam than that of a new convert. What?  China has a larger Muslim population and can date its Islam all the way back to the time of the Sahaba! So why don't we start following Chinese culture as well?
    China has some of the oldest Muslim history, dating back to as early as 650, Sa`ad ibn Abi Waqqas, was sent as an official envoy to Emperor Gaozong during Caliph Uthman's era. Throughout the history of Islam in China, Chinese Muslims have influenced the course of Chinese history.
    Its arrogance.  Think of the Chinese, they have a unique culture, writing, calligraphy, arts and martial arts.  Should they abandon them in order to be Muslim?  or can they USE these strengths to call more of their people to Islam and improve their condition and the condition of those around them? 

    When I became Muslim I was more or less isolated from the Muslims so I had to learn on my own.  I learned to pray, learned what was halal and haraam and continued on my merry way.  It wasn't until I met and married my husband that my Islam improved (DRASTICALLY).  He had studied Islam free of cultural baggage and he would explain to me why we did certain practices and the proof behind it.  My prayers improved, my wudhu, my recitation, my cleanliness with clothing (he doesn't leave the house unless his clothes are najis* free and he can pray in them).  There hasn't been any aspect of my Islam that my hubs hasn't helped me perfect ( and I am still learning).  

    Hubs told me I could still  be Latina and keep my heritage as long as my iman and Islam weren't compromised.  I am surrounded by my in laws who have managed to still keep their cultural identity and keep their Islam intact.  It is because of this that I am shocked when I hear Muslims telling new Muslims that they have to drop their cultural identity after converting.  Doesn't make any sense. Islam is so simple and beautiful why complicate it with things that aren't even prescribed?

    My advice for new Muslims is to treat advice regarding Islam like you would treat medical advice dispense by people.  With a grain of salt.  If you don't take medical advice from your friend who has never been to medical school, why would you take religious advice from a layperson?  Ask a trusted scholar, do your due diligence in researching the topic and find proof. Don't panic if you are stuck and overwhelmed, keep making du'a to Allah swt to help you find the answer.  You should definitely look in to the Istikhara prayer (prayer for guidance).

    Lastly, if your cultural practice does not conflict with Islam, you don't have anything to worry about it.  When in doubt pray istikhara (many, many times). 

    *Najis= Impurities.

    May 1, 2010

    What Would You Do?

    In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
    Peace be with you السلام عليكم

    Seriously, does anyone have a backup plan for the worst case scenario?  Like you are homeless with your children? The man you married turns out to be a jerk? or you marry the man of your dreams but you are widowed?  Am I the only one that goes through these scenarios and makes an escape plan?

    am thinking of changing my blog name

    yeah, I still like the Pinky and the Brain inspired "trying to take over the world!" but recently it seems that I have been using my blog to rant. Therefore my new name will be SIS Rants A Lot. Watcha think? I haven't decided yet if I will change it but sis rants-a-lot kinda has a nice ring to it.

    My Current JAMS!

    In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
    Peace be with you السلام عليكم

    I feel like I keep repeating myself between my FB and the blog. so SORRY about that.

    I am obsessed with the last couple of seconds of the song, this line in particular,
    Allah there is only one God and He created ADAM and we are the children of ADAM! Allah, la ilaha ila Allah!

    I sing this one like a little kid! ITS JUST AWESOME!!