February 28, 2010

What religion to raise your child?

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

This is the story of a Jewish woman who married a Catholic man, he converts to Judaism, the marriage goes bad and they separate. Supposedly there is a marriage contract where both parties agree to raise their future children Jewish. Now that they are divorced the man is trying to raise his daughter catholic and took her to be baptized. The mother (a lawyer) got a court order banning the ex-husband from taking the 3 year old to church. (read here) I was actually surprised that a judge could pass such an order. It claims that it will bring irreparable harm to the child (I don't know how). I also understand the mother's need to raise her child in the Jewish faith as I would like to raise my son in my faith. I don't entirely buy the ex's story because the man got circumcised after his alleged conversion to Judaism and to me that is COMMITMENT. From an outsider looking in it really does look like the man is trying to get back at the mother for having an affair that she denies ever existing. Allahu alem.

But I also believe that the American justice system is biased towards mothers as opposed to fathers and the guy doing the interview seems to be biased towards the mother as well. Anyway I was reading this sympathizing with both parties but they both seem a little shady in their story. Even so I disagree with her trying to send him to jail for breaking the court order about not taking his daughter to church. This looks a lot more like a matter of revenge (on both sides) than over religion.

Anyway, I was wondering how parents who have different religions raise their child(ren)? Like a Muslim with (insert religion here) or any other combination.

I don't have to worry about it because both my husband and I are Muslims and we plan on raising our children (inshaAllah) with in Islam. Is anyone out there in a interfaith marriage? How did you decide which religion to raise your children?

Did the marriage work out?

am SUPER curious.



February 26, 2010

This was me growing up

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

Growing up was hard for me. I was responsible for two young boys since I was 8 years old until I left my house at 18. I had to go to school every morning, drop off my brothers in their respective schools (one kid went to a magnet school and the other to regular), work 8 hour days after I came home from school. WALK home from the factory to our apartment, start cooking dinner, make my brothers do their homework, shower, go to bed and clean up the mess left in the house. I did that for YEARS. I also had to put up with my mother attacking my self esteem calling me a slut whenever she had a chance and I truly felt she was trying to break me as a person and she did.

Watching the following super nanny episode was hard because I see another group of girls being abused in a similar manner. These parents are making their teenage daughters raise their own brothers while being "home schooled" but there is no learning going on. I am all for children having chores and responsibilities but where are the parents' responsibilities in all of this? I mean the 17 yr old PASSED out in front of the cameras out of exhaustion. The mother goes to 'work' every day leaving the girls in charge and the father soon follows. Why did no one call CPS on these parents? They need a wake up call.

When you raise children (or not raise them depending on which way you look at it) this way you will loose them. I wanted to scream at the mother "do you think your daughters will stick around after they are 18?" HELL NO. They will run faster for the door than you can scream "TWINKIE" and the likelihood of you seeing them again is slim. After I left my mom and I accepted Islam our relationship improved but I still only see her once or twice a year. It is very hard for me to call her on a daily basis. If I can get away without calling I do. I know that is not the best thing to do but I just don't want to do it. I like my life the way it is and sometimes I have to remind myself that my mother isn't the same woman I grew up with. She has changed.

I will be writing in the next week about my childhood focusing on the pain I still feel and lately some anger. I was abused and beaten EVERY DAY and that is not an exaggeration. I have soo many stories to tell that I don't even know where to begin with that one. In the mean time here is a sanitized version of my life in this supernanny episode below.













{EDIT}Here is the update on the family, it seems like the parents actually pull it together. I really did think that it was just a front but they went through with it. mashaallah. IT is commendable that they changed their ways. May Allah swt make their journey easier ameen.

ps. it was the CHILDREN who called supernanny for help.

Call it whatever you like, its still unethical

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

In the present Convention, genocide means any of the following acts committed with intent to destroy, in whole or in part, a national, ethnical, racial or religious group, as such:

(a) Killing members of the group;
(b) Causing serious bodily or mental harm to members of the group;
(c) Deliberately inflicting on the group conditions of life calculated to bring about its physical destruction in whole or in part; (wouldn't the Israeli blockade fall under this category?)
(d) Imposing measures intended to prevent births within the group;
(e) Forcibly transferring children of the group to another group
Excerpt form Mr. Kramer's blog
(Stopping pro-natal subsidies isn't an original idea, and I credit Gunnar Heinsohn for making a much more detailed case for it, in his January 2009 Wall Street Journal Europe article, "Ending the West's Proxy War Against Israel: Stop funding a Palestinian youth bulge, and the fighting will stop too." He also coined the phrase "superfluous young men.")
I think the mothers of the young men would disagree that their children are "superfluous." Also the Palestinians wouldn't need so much aid if Israel stopped occupying them and placing blockades that affect their quality of life. If it is true that he is calling as Talking Points mentioned "Kramer argues that a good way to stifle Palestinian radicalism is by preventing Palestinian males from growing up by stopping either their conception or their survival. The way to do that is to cut off international aid that engenders procreation." If its true then it falls under the legal definition of GENOCIDE. Genocide does not ONLY mean mass graves if it falls under the above mentioned criteria (a through e) its genocide.

I first heard it from
-=UPDATE: YES, Harvard Fellow Did Advocate Palestinian Genocide?

-=Here is Mr. Kramer's rebuttal to the above claim.
http://sandbox.blog-city.com/smear_intifada.htm


PS. although he is referred to as Harvard fellow, he is just a visiting scholar which means this "I enjoy my Harvard research and library privileges." So he is just a guy with a Harvard library card.

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{EDIT} I wanted to add these comments from the youtube video
God will judge him harshly for saying this. How ironic that the EUGENICS program that he promotes was used by HITLER to try to wipe out the Jews.

ONQproductions (2 days ago) Show Hide
OYG! Is he serious? This guy is totally racist. Does he not know that poor populations explode, and affluent populations shrink? Let Palestinians work and their population growth won't be a problem for you. Oh, but then again, I'm sure the presence of even one Arab would be a problem for this guy and his ilk.
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{EDIT} someone on facebook mentioned this
"He says something about population control cutting down on the amount of young men willing to become suicide bombers. Um no, we need education to combat that. There are so many fallacies and horrible racist statements in what he said."
-I think if you replace Palestinians with any other group of people in his speech some of the racist remarks become more blatant.

February 25, 2010

I just don't get it

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

How is it that a serial killer in a movie (usually in a rich area) NEVER breaks the wall of windows lining the mansion yet they try their very hardest to break down the front door? I mean if I start screaming at the (computer monitor) its the director's fault. THEY drive me to insanity. I was watching Tales from the Crypt and this crazy axe murderer had escaped from a mental institute and had already murdered a couple of people and stolen a Santa costume. SOO he then goes to the main character (a cheating wife who just murdered her husband and is trying to dump his body in to the well) and a fight ensues with the woman going back in to her home. He tries to go in through the main entrance WHEN there are HUGE windows NEXT to the door. NOT believable. I wish I can have the time I wasted watching this back.

PS. This is how I think I would do as a movie director.

February 24, 2010

Halal Burgers induce Islam on unsuspecting diners

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

So apparently eating Halal Burgers in France may induce Islam on you against your will. WATCH OUT!
First the country went through histrionics as parliamentarians bustled to ban the niqab — the face-covering garment only a few hundred Muslim women wear in this nation of 65 million people. Then came President Nicolas Sarkozy's push for a debate on national identity, a move that critics claimed stigmatized immigrants and Muslims. Now France is demonstrating what looks like a neurotic obsession with Islam — if not outright Islamophobia — as it frets over halal hamburgers sold in a handful of the 362 French affiliates of Franco-Belgian fast-food chain Quick.

Its not YOU its ME...

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I come to play not to date. geez! I am addicted to UNO but my hubs isn't always around to play with me and being that it is a card game you need another player. Anyway just discovered online UNO and nearly peed my pants with GLEE. So am playing UNO minding my own biz and all of a sudden am getting hit on by a dude named "Ahmed" and another guy with a weird Arabic sounding name. What the face bro? I come here to play so play!

As soon as they ask me for my sex, age and location, they try to add me as a friend. That's a nice gesture but am not interested and I stopped adding people I don't know a while ago because of a stalker issue. Anyway as soon as I don't respond or I ignore their friend request they give up on playing the game and we are left with a computer instead of a partner. I guess online rejection is hard on the ego after all.

On the flip side I have started some crazy competitions with fellow gamers (male and female) trying to intimidate them by sending them a dead flower, a roasted pig (as in am about to roast you son!), evil knight, cry baby and at one point one dude kept sending me "draw 2s, draw 4s, skips and reverses" every time it was my turn so I sent him a voodo doll. HE was nice about it and took it as game banter and didn't try to befriend me (he sent me some dead flowers in return). I usually don't initiate things and wait for things to progress before I send any gags and if they have shown interest in me I don't send anything nor do I respond to the conversation.

I think the gags and gifts are a fun way to interact with each other on an online card game. Anyone else have facebook UNO? cuz if you do HIT ME UP!

I must warn you, I can get UGLY and competitive.

{edit} our UNO (physical) cards have been marked up by my son. There are missing corners, missing cards, chewed up cards and other stuff. So my hubs and I are playing a game while trying to figure out which card teh other holds based on the imperfections. Fun.

February 23, 2010

NOT Funny

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I have a guilty pleasure called The Secret Life of the American Teenager and I liked it the first season and hate it the second. I know its supposed to be like a cautionary tale of teenage pregnancy but they talk about sex ALL the time, like every other line. I went to high school and sex was a topic but not THE topic. We talked about a lot more things and I was in a poor neighborhood (so you would think we would be 'bad' but geez compared to these kids we were angels). FYI I graduated in 2003.

Anyway the writing is kind of sketchy at times but there is something I DO NOT forgive and I don't care how much I like a show and that is trivializing assault on a minor. In one of the shows Grace (the good Christian girl) decides to go against her parents and see the boy they told her NOT to see. Something goes wrong and she has to wait for her ride in the corner of the local bank at midnight (way pass her curfew). Two guys in a truck (drinking beer) pull up and one gets out and tries to force her in to the truck saying "will give you a ride if you give us a ride first." GROSS.

She tries to run and dial 911 but the guy grabs her and she falls to the ground. She makes a quick prayer sees the bottle of beer the guy dropped and picks it up and breaks it on the fire hydrant. Her rescuer/ride arrives without a shirt (long story) and the men drive off. This is caught in the bank's security cameras and it is played in a loop in the morning news BUT, they are laughing AT HER for defending herself. WHAT?! I don't care this is fictional THIS IS NOT FUNNY and its very insensitive. What the heck were the writers thinking?

I mean NO character stands up to defend her, everyone is either mad at her (her parents) or laughing at her for pretending to be a "good Christian girl" and then she nearly shanks a guy. No one is asking WHAT would have happen to her if she hadn't put up a fight? I mean seriously HORRIBLE and disgusting writing. Also NO ONE asks nor belittles the two grown men ready to commit a felony on a fifteen year old girl. ARGH! Whats with the double standards?

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The episode is called Caught
"Grace hands in her pompoms after she's caught on tape defending herself against two drunken men. Meanwhile, Amy finds Ben's clingy behavior very irksome."
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ps. This is more of an upper middle class girl gets knocked up in high school type of thing. The more accurate depiction of teenage pregnancy comes when Rumor Willis plays the role of Heather another pregnant teenager who gets kicked out by her family and SHE is working, going to school and paying rent. THAT is what happened to the girls I knew who became pregnant while in high school. Their parents rarely held their hands and paid for everything for them. I mean at one point Amy (the main character who gets pregnant) thought she was going to go on with her life except that now she would have a baby. She would go to school and her mother would take care of the child during the day and in the afternoon the baby would be clean and fed and she could practice her french horn and on the weekends she could go out with her friends and boyfriend (not the father of the baby). NEWSFLASH. that rarely happens and children aren't cute little dolls you stuff in your locker and see only when its convenient for you. NOPE. I am beginning to regret watching ALL the frigging episodes.

pps. In my defense when am nursing (laying down) I like watching something and I go to hulu and set it up and it continues to play. Don't know how I got hooked in to this show but I did and am upset about it.

February 22, 2010

So You Think You Can Dance?

I just wanted to share I was watching a show and my hubs interrupted my viewing JUST to share it. How he found the video is as mysterious as why those dudes are dancing like that. lol but you know what, you have to give it to them. They look like they are having a blast!

break yourself fool!





Some of the HILARIOUS comments I read on another site (youtube had the best video quality but the other one had better comments).

flamboyant mexican tourette's is a very serious disorder.

Reminds me of Elaine's dance from Seinfeld.


They're actually trying to fend off 9 angry wasps

I'm proud to say this is exactly how I dance when people beg me to get up off my a**. They soon regret asking.

Amazing dancing... or was he secretly being electrocuted? :)

I feel dirty just watching them.

as a Mexican am not proud of this

I was impressed he didn't hit anyone.

ps. am not judging...just laughing.

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They remind me of Cantinflas.

February 21, 2010

Having Girls

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

When I was pregnant with my little dude in 2008 I was terrified. I was so terrified I tried to sleep through most of the day so that I wouldn't think about being pregnant. I was also very happy to be expecting. Confusing I know.

I was mainly afraid that I would have a girl. Not because girls are bad or because of any cultural hangup but because I was afraid she would get hurt. Life is so hard for girls. There is menstruation, rape, beatings, domestic violence, child birth, all the stigma of being the "weaker sex" but mainly because they get raped. I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to protect her or that she would go through what I went through. I wanted to make du'a against having a girl but I have this belief that children regardless of whether they can speak or even understand DO feel feelings. They understand in their own way and if I was pregnant with a girl I didn't want her to feel unloved because I was in love with the child I was caring.

I also know that the gender of the child is decided at conception because some sperms carry the X chromosome and some carry the Y chromosome and only one can inseminate the egg. So I was scared that if I asked Allah swt for a boy and it was a girl what if the baby is born with an abnormality? or a hermaphrodite? Instead I focused on the health of the child and TRYING to enjoy pregnancy.

Once I was able to be comfortable with the idea of being pregnant I DIDN'T want to find out if I was having a girl or a boy. My friends thought that it was crazy but I wanted a surprise. In reality I didn't want to find out at 20 weeks that it was a girl and I would spend the rest of my pregnancy crying. Also what if that hurts the growth of the baby?

So I didn't find out and I enjoyed my pregnancy.

I opted for a home-birth and my son was born at home, in our bedroom. It was amazing and empowering and alhamdulillah NO tears. After the high of giving birth and the following days of caring for a newborn I realized that boys need as much protection as girls. A sexual predator is a sexual predator and being the cowards that they are they prey on the innocent and the weak of our societies. Regardless of gender. This realization shattered my long held belief that girls are molested because they are girls, nothing bad happens to boys.

I now spend a good chunk of my time making du'a that my son and all the children of the world are kept safe from predators, people who wish them harm and people who are willing to do evil to them. ameen.

I still have some remaining fears of having girls but I can't control life, I can only make du'a, live my life and hope for the best. My son is 16 months and 'despite' being an attachment parented baby he is VERY independent and my fears are just that, MY FEARS. Also not all fears are logical. I have to work through them because they cannot rule my life and more importantly my hangups and fears can't get in the way of my son's life or any other life Allah swt blesses me with. Because in the future if Allah swt blesses me with a girl, what am I going to do then? not speak to her? lock her up in my house? never let her get married? or try to ignore the fact she is a girl?

NO. I refuse. I will love any child I am blessed with, either through foster care, biologically or through adoption regardless of gender. I still have a lot of work to do but I recently secretly (well technically its public now) wanted a girl. I can't help it, I am outnumbered!

ps. Keep me in your du'as

Resources
http://www.ptsd.va.gov/public/pages/child-sexual-abuse.asp

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/childsexualabuse.html


{EDIT} What made me change my mind on girls? being a mother. It's awesome.

February 20, 2010

so true

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I saw this on a sister's facebook status and wanted to share it as I agree with the saying.

I would rather live my life as if there is a God and die to find out there isn't, than live my life as if there isn't and die to find out there is.

February 18, 2010

Forgiveness

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I know I have written a little about the abuse I endured and I have been reconsidering it. For example, I have forgiven my mom for what she did but I am still telling you all about her actions. Aren't I exposing her sins? My hubs thinks that if I have forgiven them then it probably is not fair for me to air it out. BUT I think that it happened to ME and it is a part of who I am so I feel that I am entitled to share it.

So forgive and forget? erase the posts about abuse?

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or what if my mom becomes Muslim? wouldn't that wipe away the sins she committed before? so wouldn't it be best I hide her flaws? specially since she is no longer committing them?

or the child rapist? what if he became Muslim? What then? Since he hasn't changed though I still feel he needs to be pointed out for the safety of other children.

February 17, 2010

Like Father like Daughter. oh yeah!

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

to be honest with you I have no first hand account on father-daughter relationships within Islam because I am a convert and because the muslim fathers I see are very involved in their children's lives regardless of gender, mashaAllah. I still felt like sharing the article HERE because it may be beneficial. My father passed away (you could read about it here) when I was 3 years old. My moms ex husband (my bros dad) raised me and he was awesome mashaAllah. He taught me about menstruation and how to put on a pad (using one of my mom's pads as an example on one of her underwear). It was unfortunate that I stopped communicating with him because his new wife hates my guts.

*sigh* memories :(

February 15, 2010

I need yoga or recommendations...

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I am slowly recovering from my back issues from the accident and I would like to strengthen my back muscles as well as do some light weight toning. Any advice? Suggestions? Anything I can get online?

I do have a toddler so something simple would be nice. JazakAllah khayr!

All Swans are White. no? say it aint so!!

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I don't know what to believe anymore! Swans are NOT always white. Some are black and can be found in Australia. WHAT?! omg. omg. omg. am hyperventilating.

WHAT ELSE HAVE I BEEN LIED TO ABOUT?



am sitting here rocking myself trying to figure out who is responsible for this. WHO?! I still find them beautiful and dazzling but how is it that at 24 years of age I come to find out now? Sucks. It's like am questioning everything I learned in uni. *shakes fist*




February 14, 2010

The Sex Offender Shuffle





I got it today while blog surfing, what do you think?

Why the blog name? narf!

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم


yeah, some of you were wondering why I named my blog "trying to take over the world" and this is why (link). I am a MAJOR fan of pinky and the brain. I am OBVIOUSLY the Brain and hubs is Pinky and my little dude is Pinky jr. ;) Who's a nerd?



Here is the transcript:

Pinky: Gee, Brain, what do you want to do tonight?
Brain: The same thing we do every night, Pinky . . . Try to take over the world!

They're Pinky and The Brain,
Yes, Pinky and The Brain,
One is a genius; the other is insane.
They're laboratory mice.
Their genes have been spliced.
They're dinky; they're Pinky and The Brain, Brain, Brain, Brain, Brain

Before each night is done their plan will be unfurled
By the dawning of the sun they’ll take over the world.
They’re Pinky and The Brain Yes, Pinky and The Brain
Their twilight campaign is easy to explain.
To prove their mousey worth
They’ll overthrow the Earth They’re dinky
They’re Pinky and The Brain, Brain, Brain, Brain Brain, Brain, Brain, Brain
NARF!!

February 13, 2010

Tis a bakeoff!

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I just wanted to share this with you all, tomorrow is a bake off being held at a friends house. The rules: The husbands will bake something from scratch WITHOUT the help of any women and that includes (mothers, daughters, wives, sisters etc.). MUST be from scratch no pre packaged stuff.

so some man on man baking! Iron cheff?

The sisters will judge the winner by tasting the baked goods and for some reason they all seem thrilled. I am thinking "who wants food poisoning?" Apparently the sistas do. Anyway there are a couple of husbands on board including mine! So yeah I will be subjecting myself to some questionable cooking. I trust hubs though he is a good cook, am more worried about the other dudes.

Anyway I am thrilled just to be there and see them sweat in the kitchen with a timer and me yelling "you are running out of time!" Am sadistic like that. I think I may recruit some sisters to join my heckling team.


edit: someone punked out, am not snitching am just saying.

February 12, 2010

If I was a movie director

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I would SUCK eternally, Yup I would and I'll tell you why and how later. I am currently watching The Legend of the Seeker loosely based on The Sword of Truth book series. Based on some of the comments under the videos I keep reading that the tv series has butchered the book so I intend on reading the books to see whats up. Anyway I started watching the show midway through the second season so I went back and watched it from season 1 and I like it.

One of the things that bug me and fascinate me are the Mord Sith an elite group of women warriors created to defend the master of D'Hara, Lord Rahl, (the bad guy) from creatures or people with magic. A Mord-Sith has the unique ability to capture others' magic and use it against them. SOO the smart thing to do is to NOT use magic when fighting a mord sith and this creates (in my opinion) some comical moments when the wizards are scared to do anything because magic can't be used on them. In the mean time am wondering why can't they just manipulate the surroundings? Like cast a spell that picks up all the rocks in the vicinity and smashes the mord sith as you run for the hills. Because technically the magic is being used on an OBJECT.

and that my friends is why I would SUCK as a director. My movies would have NO drama and more direct action. Like instead of having a fight scene of 1000 d'haran soldiers against the main character (Richard Cypher who btw is Australian) I would use the wizard to stop the soldiers in their tracks (freeze them) and Richard Cypher aka the Seeker can then just stab them in the heart and move on. Mission accomplished. Or when the bad guys are trying to 'kill' someone they delay it SOOO much that it makes it so easy for the hero to save the damsel. I mean just DO IT already! All the threats and crap just get it over with it. I think my style would be realism and it would tank in the box office.

I mean I get the embellishments but sometimes wouldn't it be easier to use a sniper (arrow sniper perhaps?) to get rid of the bad guy? or instead of traveling thousands of miles away use the wizard to transport you there? I watch the shows and I see shortcuts that can be taken ALL the time but the main characters seem to go about the long way.

ps. I also happen to be the person in the theater watching a horror movie screaming "WHY would you go down the embankment into a abandoned building and through a cemetery? you deserve to die for being stupid!" and am a JOY to be around when watching action movies too.

February 11, 2010

frigging spammers on my forum

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم


am so upset stupid spammers/scammers. I am so angry am making dua against them! They are registering on my hijabswappers forum and sending private messages with a link to some site that "scans your computer for viruses" aka they are trying to steal private information or install viruses on people's computers. I have gotten many angry emails from sisters and I don't blame them. I would be pist too if I join a site and I get bombarded by spam/scam artists.

I banned all the spammers and added measures so that they can only message one person at a time and they have to wait 800 seconds or 13 minutes before sending out a new one. I also disabled new registrations on my site as I look for more moderators to help me combat this HUGE issue I have. bastards.

I just REALLY hope no one clicks on the link. OH ALLAH swt PLEASE SAVE THE PEOPLE WHO RECEIVED THE PRIVATE MESSAGES FROM BEING HARMED IN ANY WAY. Let the spammers fail in their attempts. ameen!

February 9, 2010

malted balls

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم


my husband is trying to sabotage me! he is bringing the original malted milk balls and leaving them on my desk!! After loosing ALL my baby weight a few months after giving birth (just on nursing and being sick), I gained ALL of it back in ONE month! ONE MONTH! thanks to these balls. Argh! I found out that at the time I was consuming about 4,000 calories a day. I see them tempting me right now but I look away. I am currently 146lbs, 12 lbs heavier than my pre pregnancy weight and I DO NOT want to gain any more. I don't mind getting muscle weight its fat weight I worry about.

S A B O T E U R!

the accomplice.

February 7, 2010

I was threatened...

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

my kid is kinda in the light weight category and I am getting a lot of unsolicited 'advice' and not always in a kind way. Today for example someone (close to us) threatened to call child services on us to investigate how we are raising my little dude. I am not worried that child services will find anything wrong other than the fact that we IGNORE this particular person's advice because its usually full of crap. I am also sure that this person was not serious about calling, it was more their way of trying to scare us into doing what they suggest.

[edited out because I don't want backbiting]

I am taking in to consideration that my son is light weight and I am thinking of supplementing his meals with other things and would like suggestions. Like what has worked for you and if you have any schedule for the meals. What kind of snacks do you do, beverages etc.

ps. I know there are parents out there PLEASE give me suggestions before I burst in to tears.

February 6, 2010

the big two five

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I never much cared for birfdays (yes B-I-R-F-D-A-Y) but in about 5-6 months am going to be 25. Two and half decades, a quarter of a century. in other words dang. I never considered my age because I don't believe in age based in time I believe more in the biological age. I am not sure what it is called but it is what your age is REALLY like depending on your habits and what you have done to your body like smoking, drinking or even illnesses. But any who I started thinking about the number as it is approaching and if I will feel any different once its here.

Why? my friends who have turned 25 or are already 30 are freaking out. I think they should freak out at the fact they don't work out and have poor eating habits. Genetics alone is not going to help you out. Because I have seen some 50+ year old women who are HOT, HOT, HOT and some not so cute 20 year olds (and am in a college town).

Anyone understand my ramblings?

February 5, 2010

Dear Anon,

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

yes am looking at you sir spam-a-lot. No more anons SORRY but I got tired of deleting so many viagra and porn spam that I just got rid of it altogether. Except for the brief stint with the whole Angemima post I haven't received any nasty comments on the blog. alhamdulillah! but still I LOVE logging on and seeing comments just waiting for me to read but those scams are getting old. Imagine you just poured your heart out in a post, you come back and cialis and viagra peddlers are trying to get you to click on their links. Totally killed the mojo. *shakes fist*

can you spot the anon spammer?

February 4, 2010

why do I do this to myself?

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

Since I can't watch forensic files any more (because I have no tv or cable) I watch the next best thing. The fake ones. OH THE TRAVESTY, but its better than nothing. One of my faves is Bones and some of their shows are based on actual crimes (with some embellishments) and they scare the crap out of me. EVERY TIME. I have told the hubs I want to install cameras facing our front door, one facing the (since am in a paranoid state right now am gonna stop right here). WHY? OH, WHY? do I do this? am here watching yet another horrific crime scene and thinking how I can get myself out of those situations if I ever fall victim to them, May Allah swt save me.

Anyway bones is not NEARLY as difficult as biography's I survived, where actual people share their horrendous real life stories. Teaches you more than you ever considered and makes you cynical at the world. HOWEVER, since they have obviously survived it kinda redeems humanity a little bit.

hubs is out and am home alone (technically in my room while my in laws go about their biz) and am scared crap less. HONESTLY WHY DO I DO THIS? I always end up double checking the closets and making sure my windows are closed. Never mind we are in a skyscraper and there is NO way someone can climb through my window. Stupid computer streaming episodes and stupid paranoia.

Douchey, Douchey DOO...where are you!

This goes out to all the douche bags in the world! enjoy from 0:09 - 0:32 just the song. Funny thing though is that most of the douches I know don't look like these dudes. Also before anyone gets up in arms this is loosely based on Jersey Shore.


February 2, 2010

Do you ever wonder...

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I am calm now and have gotten over my little drama skit with the douche king. Alhamdulillah. I have A LOT to share but I will space it out as it is VERY personal. In the mean time I was wondering if you guys ever ask yourself what will happen to your blog once you are gone?

Like you were to pass away right now without being able to edit your blog or to delete it.

What about all the things you said? right or wrong. What if they are used against you as evidence of your backbiting, lying, stretching the truth etc.? What then?

I was sitting here thinking that people used to doubt that Allah swt will play our lives before our very eyes and question us about what we did or didn't do. We now have movies so we don't doubt this anymore. I read a hadith about how we will be questioned for the things our tongues said but, what about what our fingers typed? Our body parts will testify against us so what will our fingers say?

Am just saying. Has it ever crossed your mind?

ps. no am not high. Although those pain meds are SOOOO tempting. They are saying "come hither my darling, let me show you a good time." Yes in my head they are from the 1920's.

Followers