May 1, 2010

What Would You Do?

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

Seriously, does anyone have a backup plan for the worst case scenario?  Like you are homeless with your children? The man you married turns out to be a jerk? or you marry the man of your dreams but you are widowed?  Am I the only one that goes through these scenarios and makes an escape plan?


سمــا Samaa said...

uumm.. ok, I always think of such scenarios but in return my thoughts reply back: It's just a waste of time. My motto: live the minute and leave the next for later :)
In other words, I would do whatever I want now. If I'm suffering later then that's for me to work out later..any sense??! I don't know how to translate it into words :s

.::Tuttie::. said...

@ Skies, I know what you mean, but I am the kind of person who likes to consider my options when I am not emotionally invested in the moment. Otherwise I will panic so my way of keeping this under control is to run through some scenarios so when and if i am encountered by them later I react better.

@Stacy, that is awesome. I don't have my family to really help and my closest friends wouldn't leave me homeless but they are in no way able to help me for longer than a week.

@Rene. I wonder if it is because of what we have both been through that we think this way?

NtN said...

Before I went to Egypt to get married, my family and I set up a code word. If I started talking about my cousin Jake, it meant I was in danger and they would call the embassy and get me out. Alhamdulillah my husband is a good man and we've never had to use it. I know a lot of people have set up similar safeties with their newly married friends.

Gabby Hijabi said...

sometimes i think about it but as in many of the times in my life i had to escape it didn't work out well. it is not that i think it will work out as planned but it is just that everything gets messed up. I am afraid to leave because i don't want to go to a shelter. i have been to many growing up because our parents couldn't pay their rent due to being addicts, and i went to one following the events of what transpired between my daughter's father and i. i received very little help, and with no car or money i was stuck. I could not resort to going back with family as that is not an option. Though sometimes i try to think positive i think someday soon it is going to end. I have nothing, just my children and am afraid to let them live as i did growing up. Inshallah if anything ever happened i would be able to get the help that i would need.

Candice said...

I always have my family to fall back on so I'm lucky (and thankful) for that. And I'm also lucky that I have a decent job that is the only family income. My husband is the one in a situation that could backfire, being jobless and without family here. The only thing that is a big problem for me is his attitude. If I tried to leave him, he would attack and harass me in any way possible. But the law is on my side.