In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم
my son in the past couple of months started calling me, mama, mom, mommy, mami, amma, and a combination of all of them. Cute isn't it? well yes and no because he did exactly what Stewie does below.
Anyway, I live with my in laws and one in law in particular REALLY, REALLY, REALLY loves my son. To the point that I felt I was being usurped as a mother as well as my husband's role as the father. I know its uncomfortable to have this conversation with this person because most people complain that family is not as involved but mine was too involved. I felt like I wasn't his parent but more of his surrogate mother. When my son started calling me mom and mommy I was elated because he is totally a baba's boy and he lives for his baba. So after 12+ months of baba, baba, baba he was finally calling ME out, I felt so special.
Well, this person started to tell me that my son REALLY didn't mean mommy as in MOTHER but rather he calls EVERYONE that. Ouch. Can't you just let me dream? So whenever my son would say "mama, ammaa, mom, mommy" this person would answer, then the rest of the family started doing it too. Not that the rest were doing it on purpose but it was what they had seen A LOT of. So behind closed doors I threw a tantrum. (mature aint it?) I told my husband how I felt and that it needed to stop because it is now bothering me. I think he addressed it because whenever my son says "mommy" now they point at me or tell him I am in the room praying. YAY! The particular in law sometimes responds to mommy but my son calls him by his name (you know, uncle, grandpa that kinda name). How hard is it that I AM THE MAMA! let me have my name! dang it, I went through a unmedicated home birth, my labor pains said that I at least deserve the title of mama. NOT to mention that I change and wash those cloth diapers. Who has the boobies? ME.
I just can't help but act like a child and throw a tantrum when this topic comes up. I mean I feel like I am being erased. I don't want to be erased. That is my baby boy (on loan from Allah swt) BUT it is MY amanah. darng nagit AM THE MAMA!
ps. Does this qualify as a rant? see sis rants-a-lot would be an appropriate name.