In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم
I am SO angry so angry! The article is HERE (Adopted Russian Boy Sent Back Alone On Plane). When you are adopting you go in to it more or less blind. You may or may not get the family background or the psychological profile of the child. She got a raw deal, she believed she was getting a healthy child and instead got a child that required a lot of assistance and specialized care. I get that. I really do. However, sending the child back unsupervised was NOT the right choice. She could have relinquished him to social services and given up her parental rights. As I was watching the tv special below they mentioned that A LOT of children adopted from Russia have developmental, emotional (because of life in the orphanages), psychological and behavioral issues sometimes more than one at a time. This is why I believe people should adopt with their eyes WIDE open because lets face it, you weren't there during the pregnancy and therefore don't know what the birth mother could have ingested. The children profiled suffer from fetal alcohol syndrome and the adopted parents didn't know about it until a week after the adoption.
Adopting an older child is traumatic, bringing them to the USA where they don't speak the language, add their behavioral/emotional challenges and inexperience from the parents and you have a dangerous situation. A woman in the special accidentally killed her adopted Russian daughter after the child displayed classical developmental delays. I don't pass judgment on the people because I have never been in their shoes and inshaAllah I am never in their shoes. What I am saying is that adoption is REAL and it should be permanent. As such one should really do their research before committing to taking care of another life. Children either biological or adopted come with special challenges and it is up to the adults to deal with it.
YOU ARE NOT ADOPTING YOUR DREAM OF A CHILD, YOUR HOPES OR YOUR IDEALS. YOU ARE ADOPTING A HUMAN BEING AND WE DON'T COME PERFECT.