February 17, 2010

Like Father like Daughter. oh yeah!

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

to be honest with you I have no first hand account on father-daughter relationships within Islam because I am a convert and because the muslim fathers I see are very involved in their children's lives regardless of gender, mashaAllah. I still felt like sharing the article HERE because it may be beneficial. My father passed away (you could read about it here) when I was 3 years old. My moms ex husband (my bros dad) raised me and he was awesome mashaAllah. He taught me about menstruation and how to put on a pad (using one of my mom's pads as an example on one of her underwear). It was unfortunate that I stopped communicating with him because his new wife hates my guts.

*sigh* memories :(

4 comments:

She's Reaching said...

Hi.

So this made me cry my eyes out right on my desk.

I lost my dad a few months ago, and subHanAllah, what you said is true, when you lose your father, the person who stood up for you, you truly are an orphan. Allahu akbar.

It's hard and I know I'll never be completely OK. I miss him. May Allah forgive him all his sins and make the trails of the grave and day of Judgment easy for him. Ameen

Hijabis On Ranting Tour. said...

i read the post you linked us to and comented under a different name but im glad you linked us to that because sisters its important to establish a good father and daughter bond and relationship it makes the girl are stronger woman, i felt i could always talk to my father about everything you know besides the menses stuff, he didnt seem to even notice when i had it because we always pray together in the living room like a jamaat and whenever im not praying id be wondering round the house and hed be calling me wondering why i was suddenly interested in “praying upstairs”, the same for all my sisters too, but apart from that we could talk to him about everything, i wasnt scared of voicing my opinions on things and he was always the one who kinda spoiled everyone , i actually think my mum was more strict then my dad because she obviously had to tell us wrong from right whereas he saw everything we did as sweet or innocent etc, i think my father was a great dad and probably a great husband since my parents stayed together for all their lives so far, i never saw him yell or argue with my mother, he doesnt even shout at us, he does give advice though, if he saw something bad he would tell us about it and express why he wouldnt want us to do it, once my older sister said, “besides allah, i would abstain from doing bad things in order to never shame my fathers name”, because he truly did not deserve any shame or embarasement, he is respected by everyone who knows him and sometimes we gave him trouble thats what happens when you have a million kids and 5 of them are girls :O,he never allowed anyone to hurt us, never hit us (the girls) and never allowed our brothers to hit us . he normally just used to call everyone some nights turn off the television the computer the phones and talk about us about education about islam, i always apreciated him and we all agree wallah he is a role model for me, if i can be as great a mum/wife as he was a dad, and even as relgiious a muslim itd be mission acomplished but im doing alright as i aint even married yet
so yeah be nice to your daughters theyll always love you irregardless
xxx
naz from somalianarab.blogspot.com

kakchik said...

Assalamualaikum Tuttie.
In my family relatives always say that I'm like my father in many ways but I'm always deny them. I was a stubborn youth before and my father play a very important role in making me the person I am today. Alhamdulillah.

hispanic muslimah said...

I'm also quite unaware of what a father-daughter relationship should be. I hope to learn a lot from my future father in law.
I was actually a little afraid and nervous around him when I first met him. Now I regret feeling scared because MashaAllah he's awesome. I like him more than my future mother in law.
He's so patient and good natured.
My problems with my biological father led me to have messed up relationships with men.

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