I know that it comes from wiki but I didn't want to go into doing all the legal search but I did enough research before hand to know the REALITY of adoption. Reason for all the research was because I want to adopt and have brought it up to the hubs who is lukewarm to the idea. InshaAllah he will come around until then it is just a dream I foster.
Open adoption means that the birth mother and adopted family know who each other are. Even in an open adoption, the birth parents' legal rights of guardianship are terminated, and the adoptive parents become the legal parents. There are no guarantees that the adoptive parents will allow contact between the child and the birth parents. In some jurisdictions, the birth and adoptive parents may enter into a binding agreement concerning visitation, exchange of information, or other interaction regarding the child. Far more common are informal agreements, which may change over time as each set of parents' lives progress. As legal guardians, the adoptive parents are responsible for implementing contact arrangements in the child's best interests and hold final decision-making authority.
Open adoption is distinct from open records. Even in adoptions where all parties know the identities of one another, birth and adoption records remain sealed in those jurisdictions where that is the law regarding adoption.
Anyway seeing the show and the agonizing decision they had to make at such a young age is heartbreaking. I feel that women who give up their children to adoption or opt for an abortion do regret their choice. Maybe not always but once in a while in a moment of melancholy and what ifs.
I think adoption is a little easier (in my ignorant opinion) because you can eventually look up your child. I mean the child might not want anything to do with you but at least there is that option to see them later, as selfish as that sounds. Abortion is so FINAL for me its scary.
I still think parents and potential parents should do what they think is best for their child whether it be to keep the child or give them up for adoption. I just feel that they should be FULLY informed and not lied to. If they go into it with the full understanding that they may never see their child again and yet still decide to do it, than that's fine. inshaAllah. I am not going in to the Islamic aspect of all of these as I just wanted to share how I feel about it and am too scared to share something that might turn out to be incorrect. May Allah swt save me and forgive me for ever doing so. ameen.
Another show I watched was Find My Family an Australian documentary show that helps people who are looking for their biological parents or parents looking for their biological children once they are older find each other. I cried through out the whole 5 or so episodes I watched. One adult dude told his mom "I know you didn't hold me when I was born because if you had, you would have kept me." And that was the truth. She didn't hold him out of fear she wouldn't go through with the adoption. I made up my mind that if we ever adopt I will do it Islamically meaning keeping the children's original name and as much information as possible to help them out if they ever decide to find their biological parents. Am sure my heart will break with agony at the thought they might just leave me but I feel it is their birth right. We don't own anyone not even those born biologically. They have all been borrowed from Allah swt and He swt will call them to him eventually. So I intend to get as much good deeds as possible by sponsoring orphans and adopting them.