December 31, 2009

Something is Fishy...Me Thinks


In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

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I am looking at reputable fabric wholesalers and manufacturers and I keep reading GLOWING reviews after maybe the 4th review am beginning to feel that they were all written by the same person. The reviews I usually read on amazon are usually good but these reviews were different focused on things that a consumer wouldn't really care but a biz owner would. KWIM?

Is there so little faith in your biz that you must make your own reviews? kinda like fake it till you make it attitude.

December 30, 2009

Spammers YOU SUCK!


Recently I have been spending a good amount of time
D E L E T I N G
messages from spammers.

AHHH! NO I don't want viagra or to see Miley Cirus naked or some other celebs sex tape. GET A LIFE! and you spamming me and my other blogs is NOT making me want to buy your products instead it makes me question your business ethics and it motivates me AGAINST buying anything from you.

December 29, 2009

So I Googled My Name

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

Things have been happening in our community recently that has everyone on edge. Being the paranoid narcissist that I am, I decided to google my name and was relieved. ALHAMDULILLAH! nothing questionable popped up nor can it be linked to this blog or any other blogs I have. yay! on the down side though I found a picture of me with a group of my friends and I was happy that I was dressed with hijab at the very least. Not that it is too much of a big deal its just that the niqab has become ingrained with my identity so I felt kinda naked without it. Kinda like a peep show.

Anyway I have been wanting to blog with my real name for quite some time now and every time I decide to go public something nasty happens that makes me retreat right back in to my anonymous shell. I have only revealed myself to a couple of you and I want to thank you for respecting my privacy and extending your friendship :) xoxo.

It also got me thinking about the consequences of having your name out there specially if you are looking to get married or looking for a job. I mean your previous employer could google you and find the rant on your blog about getting fired OR your future boss discovers that same rant and reconsiders you. Or your potential spouse can find out about your once-upon-a-time-not-so-halal-boyfriend. Don't believe me? Well check this out...

The internet is a double edged sword on the one hand it gives you so much flexibility and freedom on the other it enslaves your content in perpetuity on either google servers or some other cached server. So 5 to 10 years from now where will that information be? how will it affect you? who will have access to it? or for some of my friends who have some naughty pictures of themselves online, how will you feel if your kid finds it?

anyone know what am talking about?

December 25, 2009

Plants want to live TOO!

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I just read the NYT article "Sorry, Vegans: Brussels Sprouts Like to Live, Too" and I am amazed at how complex plants are. SUBHANAALLAH!

excerpt
The more that scientists learn about the complexity of plants — their keen sensitivity to the environment, the speed with which they react to changes in the environment, and the extraordinary number of tricks that plants will rally to fight off attackers and solicit help from afar — the more impressed researchers become, and the less easily we can dismiss plants as so much fiberfill backdrop, passive sunlight collectors on which deer, antelope and vegans can conveniently graze. It’s time for a green revolution, a reseeding of our stubborn animal minds.
I completely have new respect for plants and the green revolution. PLEASE read it and share your thoughts because I am interested in hearing your take on it.

December 24, 2009

You messing with me? I kick you butt!

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

am frustrated, angry and deadline is looming. I hate depending on other people to get things done. HATE IT. with a passion. In other news I was told I couldn't use the silhouette of a butterfly in my logo for Niqab Life because we can't have pictures of animals. ARGH! Where do people get these ideas from?

make du'a for me before I cuss someone out!

December 23, 2009

The Stupidest Thing I Have Ever Done

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم
When I wrote about my marriage interviews I promised I would write this post and here it is...

I was 16 years old my mom, (new) step dad and my brothers had gone to a movie theater about 6 blocks from the factory and 40 blocks from the house. I don't remember what we watched that night to be honest with you because the real show started as soon as the movie was over and we were walking to our car. My stepdad (not my bros dad but her new husband) said something nice to me and for some reason my mom blew a casket calling me a whore among other things. Maybe it was because it was midnight and I had already endured 8 hours of working in her factory in addition to going to school and non stop verbal attacks for the day so I snapped.

I didn't curse at her or anything I just made an abrupt right at the light and kept on walking. I was SO furious and my mom was shocked waiting for the light with my brothers screaming her head off about disowning me if I kept walking and that I wasn't welcomed back home. I was so furious I kept on walking. At this point I was in top physical shape and I was a power walker. No way she was catching up to me even if she did decide to run after me. Well when I walked the 40 blocks to my house in the cold I did record time because I arrived home but no one answered the doorbell. Thinking that my mom was going to do good on her promise of kicking me out of the house I decided that I would go to the factory and stay there.

I walked the 30+ blocks back to the factory in record time. I would LOVE to show you a picture of the industrial area but my hubs would freak out so I will do my best to describe it. Our factory was on the 3rd floor of a massive industrial complex and technically it was the sub-basement which meant that the building was on a steep hill. So the basement was below street level but as you continued further the sub-basement was lower but still 3 floors above ground. Make sense? ok. Technically it has two entrances from the street but unfortunately I couldn't use them because this building was so secure that it basically cuts the inside labyrinth of businesses in sections with multiple 2 feet thick sliding doors of metal and I did not have the keys to them (only the super did). So I went through the back entrance.

So in the very back (where my mom's factory was) there was a second steep hill and that is where the homeless people lived. This industrial complex had two streets straddling it but no one would go down them because people would hide in the dark and deal drugs. I was so mad that I walked the half a block down the steep street (straddling the building) in the dark and continued onward. Then made the right when I reached the bottom of the street and made a left to go by the side. Now they use to have one of the semis blocking the entrance so someone could technically ambush you and you wouldn't know it until you were right there and it was too late. So I got through it, took out my keys let myself in and locked the doors (big, heavy, thick doors) and continued upstairs. I locked myself into the factory and for some reason checked the voice messages.

That was a habit of mine since I was responsible for customer service and quality control. I heard a message from my mom but it wasn't directed at me. You know when you call someone and you get their voicemail but you don't realize it and continue talking to the person in front of you? well that was the kind of message. Apparently she was afraid for my safety and since I didn't pick up at the factory then she didn't know where I could be. Weird. By the way can you believe I walked the 40 blocks faster than it took her to drive it? subhanaAllah.

So all is well and I turn off the lights and try to go to sleep on this HUGE industrial table (18f eet long and 5 feet wide). I woke up to flashing red, white and blue lights and immediately assumed my mom had called the cops on me or someone thought it was suspicious for a teenager to go down a industrial street so I stay quite and I don't turn on any lights. In the morning when I had to go to school I went down stairs and discovered a horror scene.

Apparently between the time I arrived at the factory and the flashing cop lights some poor woman had been dragged to that isolated area where you can get ambushed (the next door would have been the one I locked). She had been raped, tortured and murdered. I was in shock. I didn't hear anything. If I had I would have called the cops but I think she may have been sedated or gagged because I didn't hear anything.

That could have been me. In my anger and my teenage invincibility I had put myself in the most dangerous part of town at midnight without any protection! I don't know why that woman was chosen and I didn't follow the news because I felt that it could have been me and it was sorta like watching someone talk about your death. I know it doesn't make any sense but that is how my 16 year old self felt. A few seconds here or there meant that I could have been the victim or walked in while the crime was being committed. Death never felt so real until that moment. Alhamdulillah Allah swt kept me safe but I do feel so bad for the way that woman died. No one deserves to die like that or lose a loved one like that.

I was retelling my story to my hubs a while ago and he told me that when he was looking to get married (he looked for nearly 9+ years) he used to make du'a that Allah swt keeps his wife safe. He said that since we are giving three things when our soul is blown in to us 1) our provisions 2) who we are going to marry 3) how long we are going to live. Seeing that his wife was already chosen he made du'a for her well-being constantly for years. So I asked him more or less when he started to make such du'as and it coincides with me being 15-21 (I met him when I was 21). So it could have been my mother's du'as that saved me that night or it could have been my future husband's du'as. All I know is that Allah swt was merciful to me that night and am grateful for it.

Definitely the stupidest thing I have ever done.

Ps. And if you are interested the second stupidest thing I have done is accepting a ride from this Psycho.

Privacy Tutorial and Clumsy Muslims

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم


I value my privacy and I have multiple email accounts that I use for different things. For example I have an email acct for MSN (recently although I barely use it), another linked to this blog and facebook, one for every business I have, a private acct that 2 or 3 of you know as well as friends and family and I have another for joining websites that might sell my information to spammers. So you can say I value my privacy A LOT and I get upset every time I get an email forwarded to me and I literally see HUNDREDS of emails before I reach the bottom of the email with the intended message.

You have just by passed mine and everyone else's security. I received a spam email forwarded by a sister and there were SOO many emails on it. SO that means that my email is outhere being forwarded by people. If I was a spammer you guys just gave me a nice list of "muslim" emails already compiled and ready to be sold to the highest bidder. Come on guys think before you forward things and use BCC (blind carbon copy) and address the email to yourself because...
The only recipient address that will be visible to all recipients is the one in the To: field. So, to keep maximum anonymity you can put your own address in the To: field and use Bcc: exclusively to address your message
Here is a nice article from about.com that you can read up on the topic. please. You have no idea the danger you might be putting fellow Muslims by forwarding questionable material and have such an easy compiled list readily available and can fall in to the wrong hands. And you know which ones am talking about.

This is the ACTUAL email I am referring to, you see all those blue lines? they are FULL of emails and you know what? it keeps going. I made the font small so I could fit the most amount on emails in this print screen and I still couldn't fit them all (and I have a large monitor). That is how many emails are in this ONE forwarded email before you even get to the actual message. I blurred the emails using a program so they are not readable but click on the image to make bigger and see what am talking about.

Now your email and the email of unsuspecting brothers and sisters are in some spammer's hands or worst. If someone comes knocking on your door or you find yourself added to a TSA no fly list this might be the reason why. Made my point?

Ps. My hubs once said that it is better to have a smart enemy than a stupid friend. Am beginning to understand him.

December 22, 2009

A Lesson from the Dogs

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

So as I was watching an episode of the Dog Whisperer with Cesar Milan (dude is latino! mashaallah) he gave me a nice little tidbit.

Dogs don't live in the past and they don't live in the future, they live in the NOW. Which makes their rehabilitation easy.

He went on about how we stress our animals and they are only responding out of our own anxieties. He also said that it is easy to change yourself if you live in the now and the transformation is easier. I am not implying that we shouldn't learn from our past or plan for our future just simply LIVE. What am saying is that we forget to live in the now and appreciate things for what they are.

SO I started looking at myself and realized that I do this all the time. I dwell in the past and I don't know when to pull the plug and disconnect from such horrible memories. I also look to far in to the future and get anxious (I have social anxiety) and terrify myself in to inaction.

In the end we are not promised tomorrow so why stress it? we have our provisions and if we didn't we wouldn't be alive to be worrying about it. SO in essence the Dog Whisperer has become my second shrink...after SuperNanny of course.

Cesar Milan with a GAWGEOUS pit.
I think this animal is just regal and beautiful.

If I ever get that farm I want the first animal am getting is a blue pitbull. This dog has my heart and I always wanted it but could never afford it. In the USA where we live in skyscrapers although it is illegal to discriminate against renters with pets it still happens. So I can't have one unless I have my own place. :( Which sucks but what can I do? Housing would be so limited and we have no place to put a gawgous puppy like the one below.

This is a Blue pit. Characterized by its dark grey fur to its blue to gray eyes.
isn't he cute? he is a little on the pudgy side but he is a baby after all.

This is what he would look like as an adult.
Absolutely B E A U T I F U L

PITS do have a bad rap but it is usually the dog owners fault or not being responsible when choosign a pet. A pit needs an assertive personality and unfortunately this dogs have been abused by people. So when getting a pit you need to know its history, family history and so on. You can check out http://badrap-blog.blogspot.com/ securing the future of the American Pit Bull terrier as a cherished family companion.

December 21, 2009

I have a new blog crush :)

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

Her name is Sabrina and I love her style and blog (Slice of Lemon)! I was introduced to her by Modest Justice (jazakaAllah khayr sister) and I can't stop reading her blog and watching her 'mini episodes' mashaAllah! Her views on hijab and mine are nearly insync with each other. I also LOVE, LOVE, LOVE her Disclaimer on her blog! . I think I can save myself a lot of grief just by typing something similar on my Niqab Life, Hijab Life and any other future hijabi fashion I do.

December 20, 2009

OOPS!

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I haven't seen my brothers YET :( and I just found out from my mother that my brother's girlfriend is coming and my mom is sending gifts with her for my little dude. OOPS. I hope she doesn't ask me why I didn't accept her facebook friend request. OOPS.

In other news my father in law bought my son his very own kiddie laptop, cell phone and my hubs bought a handy manny flip phone in SPANISH! My little dude went NUTS. He LOVES computers and he is forever messing with mine and trying to take his baba's laptop. I say trying because his baba is a technology feign and doesn't allow people to touch his gadgets. It was too cute! we got it on tape how he squealed when the toys were given to him. mashaAllah. He just stared at them from a distance and once his grandfather told him they were his, that boy wouldn't let them go. :)

mashaAllah.





3rd year Anniversary

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

You can read about how we met and married in 5 days here.

So today is our 3rd year anniversary. Alhamdulillah. I ask that Allah swt continue to bless our marriage and increase the love between my husband and I. AMEEN. Also in 2 more days my baby boy will be 14 months old! *tears* Another plus has been that my BOTH my brothers are here visiting! alhamdulillah! I haven't seen one of them in over a year. So it should be fun INSHAALLAH! May Allah swt grant them iman ameen.

La ilaha ila Allah.

Blood Diamonds...Conflict Diamonds....DEATH Diamonds

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم
I just finished watching a National Geographic documentary about blood diamonds or conflict diamonds. I was heartbroken as they showed footage of people being gunned down and it looked like someone may have taken their last breath as another stood over him and just shot him. The brutality of it was just overwhelming and all over a stone.

A diamond maybe forever but a life is PRICELESS. I was so angry watching the footage of all the amputees, men, women, children, young and old. It didn't matter, they had all been maimed or butchered. OVER WHAT?!

D I A M O N D S

As I saw some of the butchered and maimed and recognized thobes, kufis and hijabs I cried for them. I would have cried regardless because a life is a life but realizing that they were my brothers and sisters in Islam and were butchered for the rocks that we shop for was overwhelming. Those rocks that symbolize love and marriage may be tinged with blood.

What is a diamond anyway?
in mineralogy, diamond (from the ancient Greek ἀδάμας - adámas "unbreakable") is an allotrope of carbon, where the carbon atoms are arranged in a variation of the face-centered cubic crystal structure called a diamond lattice.
You know what else is made of carbon? Graphite or LEAD when used in pencil. SO YES a diamond is a glorified carbon.

If I ever buy a diamond I will be buying a synthetic one.
Synthetic diamond is diamond produced in a technological process; as opposed to natural diamond, which is created in geological processes. Synthetic diamond is also widely known as HPHT diamond or CVD diamond, HPHT and CVD being the production methods, high-pressure high-temperature synthesis and chemical vapor deposition, respectively.
I know of one former West Pointer who has a factory making synthetic diamonds and they are indistinguishable from MINED diamonds. Because they are REAL diamonds just compressed in a laboratory as opposed to overtime in the Earth.

I don't know how to fix the problem with blood diamonds which adds to my frustration but I wanted to share with you since it is consuming me right now. When I used to listen to music (like years ago) the song that struck me and would move me in to action was Kanye's song "Diamonds From Sierra Leon Remix" I am not going to paste the whole song.
"Diamonds From Sierra Leone (Remix)"
(feat. Jay-Z)

[Verse 1]
Good Morning, this ain't Vietnam still
People lose hands, legs, arms for real
Little was known of Sierra Leone
And how it connect to the diamonds we own
When I speak of Diamonds in this song
I ain't talkin bout the ones that be glown
I'm talkin bout Rocafella, my home, my chain
These ain't conflict diamonds,is they Jacob? don't lie to me mayne
See, a part of me sayin' keep shinin',
How? when I know of the blood diamonds
Though it's thousands of miles away
Sierra Leone connect to what we go through today
Over here, its a drug trade, we die from drugs
Over there, they die from what we buy from drugs

The diamonds, the chains, the bracelets, the charmses
I thought my Jesus Piece was so harmless
'til I seen a picture of a shorty armless
And here's the conflict
It's in a black person's soul to rock that gold
Spend ya whole life tryna get that ice
On a polo rugby it look so nice
How could somethin' so wrong make me feel so right, right?
'fore I beat myself up like Ike
You could still throw ya Rocafella diamond tonight, 'cause

[Hook]

December 18, 2009

Servants of Allah: African Muslims Enslaved in the Americas

the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

Servants of Allah: African Muslims Enslaved in the Americas (New York University Press, 1998) also deals with the experience of Africans in the Americas during slavery. It is the first book to retrace the 500 year-old story of West African Muslim communities in the New World. Named a 1999 Outstanding Academic Book, Servants of Allah also received Honorable Mention for the Outstanding Books Award from the Gustavus Myers Center for the Study of Human Rights.
Has anyone read it? I am thinking of ordering it. From some of the reviews I read that there is some misinformation about Islam in the book but its not too bad. When am finished inshaAllah I will pass on my review of the book.

I NEED A CAMERA already!

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

all these amazing and HILARIOUS things happen all around me and I can't share it with you because I don't have a camera. Argh! I have all these arts and crafts and can't share either. ARGH! WELL. I do have to buy one and inshaAllah the funds will be there for it as I do need to take pictures of the niqabs.

make du'a.

I want an AWESOME camera like the Canon 5D and a 50mm/1.4 lens. Seeing as am broke though I will settle for whatever takes a decent picture.

am not a pedo! I just like

giving children candy for FREE which is why I must include the words LEGIT to make myself feel better.

December 17, 2009

Lesson On Professionalism *ouch*

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

well as it turns out, those people I was ranting about 3 hours and 2 post ago are my main customer demographic. SOO down with the post.

I didn't realized it until after I calmed down the potential customer service nightmare and backlash. OOPS. So instead of ending up like the poor woman below I will stop it right now. I am not sure if I should delete the previous posts yet.


Facebook Fail. * There is a lot of CURSING*
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Cool Niqabs Around the World

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

So far as I am designing my niqabs I have searched for 'muses' and I found some super cool ones! So far the Bedouin women have the most colorful ones, most intricate and most unique ones. MashaAllah. So I am going to share the muses. (Not all of them are Bedouins but you will see which one are ;))
by mnadi
yeah I know it is a strange niqab but I liked the look.


Photographer Unknown

I couldn't find who to give credit. SORRY.





by notbad12345
maybe not so colorful.




I have more to share later but for now these are my muses. What do you think? Aren't these sister adventurous? Which one would you wear?

December 16, 2009

Ignorace as a point of view *rant*

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

SubhanaAllah. I posted a link to the Sartorialist blog featuring a BEAUTIFUL and stylish sister (mashaAllah) and sisters (at least pretending to be sisters) criticized it as being wrong hijab. Going as far as posting comments on the Sartorialist blog about it not being "hijab" or not in the 'islamic spirit.' SERIOUSLY?

SERIOUSLY?!

Like he cares? Why do we feel the need to correct others dress code? Online we can't gauge properly their iman level and we might end up pushing them further away from Islam when simple tolerance would have been ok.

At least in person I can see more or less where this person stands Islamically and I can tailor my advice to them. But when push comes to shove I look at the reason why I am giving them advice and think of it this way, which one is worst, the sister wearing wrong hijab (she can eventually correct it herself as she grows in iman and self confidence) OR do I want to push her out of islam and in to Kufr (where the likelihood of her iman growing is almost zero?)?

In our over zealousness we loose sight of the bigger picture and in pursuit of enjoining the good and forbiding the evil we butcher the sunnah, the ummah and the person in particular. Allah swt has told us He will forgive all sins except one ATTRIBUTING PARTNERS TO HIM. So if you are going to promote the sunnah make sure its the SUNNAH and not your nafs. argh!

You know what I feel is the best way to teach about proper hijab?

YOU
wear proper hijab

I will ignore the comments that were later deleted from the sartorialist blog but I posted it on a couple of [edit out] pages on facebook as they deal with Muslimahs and I immediately received a [edit out] negative feedback.

I am GLAD they are
NOT my friends and are just 'fans' on those pages. OMG. I kept hearing from sisters how they get put off by niqabis and I thought they were simply BSing me. Am a niqabi and am lovable, hugable and friendly am like a Spanish teletubby.

SUBHANALLAH!

They are entitled to their opinions of course but I was highly disappointed at their lack of tolerance. Niqab does NOT make anyone more pious NOR does it give you permission to look down at people or criticize what they are or are not wearing. If you feel that way then you seriously need to look at the reasons why you wear the niqab.

[edit out]--------[edit out]

This ignorance as a point of view is driving me insane. Just look at our Islamic history all those centuries of TOLERANCE and freedom of religion and good character all lost on them.


It just gets my blood boiling to high pitch. ARGH!

Personally I am more strict on myself but I am liberal on others. Why? Because I CHOOSE to live this way and I will not enforce MY choice on them. They have to make their own.

Rant over (to be continued actually since this kind of ignorance is rampant)

wa salaam,
Tuts

[EDIT] BY tolerance I don't mean to condone the behavior or celebrate it but rather NOT comment or antagonize them. I have come across blog posts I did not like nor did I think appropriate for sisters but I just left it alone. Seeing as I had nothing nice to say and it wouldn't have been helpful. I just closed the page and made du'a for them.

Al Maghrib should really have a class about giving naseeha. It seems we have lost our most basic manners EVEN thought they are SUNNAH.

we are all at different stages of iman

Al-Haakim reported in al-Mustadrak, and al-Tabaraani reported in al-Mu’jam:

Prophet (sws) said “Iman decreases or gets worn out just as your clothing becomes worn our (Prophet (sws) makes a Dua) May Allah allow you to renew your iman”

December 15, 2009

OMG! Sartorialist and...

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

Today is 3 years since my hubs and I met in 5 days it will be our wedding anniversary and 7 days later another wedding anniversary (for us). You know what am talking about if you read my marriage story. :)

In other unrelated news the sartorialist just featured a sister on his site. MashaAllah. He was selected as TIME Magazine Top 100 Design Influencers. Check it out HERE! I follow his blog because I find his photographs stunning mashaAllah and today was definitely a treat. What do you think?

December 14, 2009

I have a thing for Australians *dang*

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

yup. I have a thing for Australians that borders around obsessive compulsive to the 3rd power. I mean they are SOO cute! When I was in my 2nd year in college I was going to do a study abroad/exchange program in Australia and I had all these different colleges that were interested but when I did the math I would have been able to go to Australia but then I would have starved as that is as far as my money would have taken me. ah memories.

I wasn't going there to further my knowledge or to 'see' the world or not even because those naked guys from thunder from down under were popular at the time (Spanish TV LOVED them). Anyway, it was because of the kangaroos and the fauna in general. Am such a sucker. I AM STILL youtubing Kangaroo videos.

B E A U T I F U L ANIMALS! MashaAllah!

I believe it might be true :) For all you Australians, "you are welcome!"


I read these cute little critters could slice you with their claws and they spend most of their day "high" on some good eucalyptus leaves. They are still CUTE though. mashaAllah.

lol.

and I was VERY disappointed to find out that the Tazmanian devil I KNEW wasn't the real one. Tis was a sad day. The little critter is still cute though. Deadly but cute.

You know who I was crazy about meeting? Like Michael Jackson fan level of crazy? STEVE IRWIN aka the Crocodile Hunter! Crikey, mate! Oh man he was awesome. He had me believing I could do the same and wrangle things... maybe my pillow and pull off his accent. Both epic fails. I also decided to look in to the Queensland area of Oz to do the program.

It took me like a day to accept he was dead, like I refused to believe it and when my friends said a sting ray killed him then I KNEW they were BSing me. I mean there aren't any crocodiles in the ocean. liars.

But when I did accept it I watched as many sappy memorials for him as I could and I felt so bad for his wife and children. MashaAllah she loved him soo much she uprooted herself from America for him. I LOVED watching them together as they seemed so in love. I never met the dude but I still felt a sense of loss. I can't watch the crocodile hunter diaries any more. I know it sounds stupid but that is how I feel. SubhanaAllah I can't believe its been three years but I still can't bring myself to watch them.

"The only animals I'm not comfortable with are parrots, but I'm learning as I go. I'm getting better and better at 'em. I really am."
Steve Irwin (RIP)


December 13, 2009

The Launch of Niqab Life (inshaAllah)

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

As Salaamu Aalaykum!

As a niqabi myself I am currently working on a Niqab product line and would love to hear feedback from sisters who either wear the niqab or are thinking about it.

I have asked 3 questions you can answer them on this blog or CLICK HERE!

  1. What are your favorite niqab styles? if you have any website or image please share.
  2. What are you looking for in a niqab?
  3. What are your favorite niqab colors?

For those who believe that we are not allowed to beautify ourselves PLEASE provide hadiths. For those who believe that colors aren't allowed again provide proof. Don't make what is halal haram just based on your opinion. That being said thank you in advanced for your polite input. wa salaam



Blog Niqab Life

My Own Niqabs de COLORES!


In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I haven't gotten tired of the same styles and blocks of color in niqabs. Not that there is anything wrong with them is just that I want a change. I am not going to stop wearing my niqab because the selections available are limiting me, I will just make my own. InshaAllah. I have searched and I have found NO ahadith BANNING colors if you have any bring it as I am eager to follow the truth. I found some historical accounts of women wearing colorful outfits and *gasp* colorful niqabs. Like the bedouin below.

Also there is no hadith saying you have to wear ONLY black as it conflicts with the below hadith
recorded by Ahmad, Abu Daw'ud, and Tirmizhi on the authority of Ibn 'Abbas that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said: "Wear white clothes, for these are your best clothes, and enshroud your dead in them." Tirmizhi considers it a sound hadith.
I think some of the most thorough research on a hijabi fashion blog comes from ILoveHisma.
I have to verify the following hadith but I wanted to share with you if anyone could direct me to a hadith database. The University of South Carolina's database doesn't seem to work right now.

Hadith - Sahih Al-Bukhari 7.715
...'Aisha said that the lady (came), wearing a green veil ...

Hadith - Sahih Al-Bukhari 7.733
that he had seen Um Kulthum, the daughter of Allah's Apostle(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam), wearing a red silk garment.

Hadith - Sahih Al-Bukhari 7.713
The Prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) was given some clothes including a black Khamisa. The Prophet(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, "To whom shall we give this to wear?" The people kept silent whereupon the Prophet(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, "Fetch Um Khalid for me." I (Um Khalid) was brought carried (as I was small girl at that time). The Prophet(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) took the Khamisa in his hands and made me wear it and said, "May you live so long that your dress will wear out and you will mend it many times." On the Khamisa there were some green or pale designs (The Prophet saw these designs) and said, "O Um Khalid! This is Sanah." (Sanah in a Ethiopian word meaning beautiful).

Hadith - Sunan of Abu Dawood #4055, Narrated Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As
We came down with the Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) from a turning of a valley. He turned his attention to me and I was wearing a garment dyed with a reddish yellow dye. He asked: What is this garment over you? I recognised what he disliked. I then came to my family who were burning their oven. I threw it (the garment) in it and came to him the next day. He asked: Abdullah, what have you done with the garment? I informed him about it. He said: Why did you not give it to one of your family to wear, for there is no harm in it for women.

INFIDELS!


In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Peace be with you السلام عليكم


I have no idea who the infidels x4 are but I just wanted a simple "infidel pic." Anyway I was watching another documentary courtesy of sister Sarah Plain And Short from the blog S.O.S~Save Our Sunnah about the crusaders (she has awesome finds MashaAllah). First I was very angry and wanted to make bad du'as against them but it really is a waste of time and energy seeing as their day of judgment has begun. *shutters* I instead made du'a for all the Muslims who were butchered along with all the innocent people who suffered at their hands.

I actually was confused for a good portion of the documentary because they kept throwing the word "INFIDEL" around on the Christian side. I know this is going to sound stupid but remember my post on being brainwashed? WELL, for some reason I made an association that infidel(s) means anyone NOT a Muslim. So I was confused that the Christians (which is to broad technically it was the Catholics more specifically the French) were rallying the people to kill the infidels. I started to laugh because I was like, "why would they want to kill themselves?"

So I did what any self respecting history lover would do, I googled it and clicked on the wiki link and I was shocked. Do you know it originates from Christianity?

Infidel (literally "one without faith") is an English word meaning "a person who does not believe in religion or who adheres to a religion other than one's own".

Infidel is also an ecclesiastical term in Christianity, the term, traditionally used by the Roman Catholic Church to refer to one who did not believe in the divinity of Jesus, knowingly held beliefs that contradicted Catholic dogma, or one who had not been baptized, or by Christians in general to describe non-Christians or those perceived as enemies of Christianity. Current English speaking Catholic ecclesiastical usage however distinguishes between non-Christians and non-believers (persons without religious affiliations or beliefs). [ Today, the term Infidel is often used sarcastically to denounce religious fundamentalism, particularly Islam.

The documentary makes so much more sense know. Did they just switch history on us and slap us with it? OH NO THEY DIDN'T *wags finger in the air*

OK. BREATHE,

Moving on, I also learned why the Crusaders ransacked Constantinople, a Christian strong hold on the way back from Jerusalem. They were the Orthodox church and they double crossed the crusaders so no love lost there. I think the Crusades would have happened with or without the Muslims as it is stated in the documentary. But instead of the Muslims being the focal point it would have been the eastern Christians who didn't believe in the divinity of Jesus (pbuh), were relatively wealthy due to the trade routes in and around the area while the western Christians and Europe in general were poor and in the dark ages..

Another thing I learned was that the Crusaders although they did horrendous things like eating the flesh of their victims (yes they ACTUALLY DID that because they ran out of supplies) were technically NOT all Christians or Catholics. They were just thugs who vandalized Europe, the church and other innocents. Their pope DID tell them that it was a one way ticket to heaven but they weren't highly religious people. They interpreted infidel to mean anything NOT European so the first people massacred on their way to Jerusalem were the Jews.

Those who cannot learn from history are doomed to repeat it.
George Santayana
As I was watching the lies spread about Islam on the doc I realized that they are still uttered to this day. AstaghfirAllah I still held on to some until a couple of days ago. The man or men responsible for that campaign should be studied because that is some lasting marketing right there. SubhanaAllah.

I was also thinking that we should study when the calamities happened to the ummah to find out what we were doing or NOT doing that brought about such trials. Did they abandon the sunnah? were they being unjust? What were the Muslims doing at the time? Even though the documentary was made by Non Muslims it still left me in awe of the Muslims. I do love this ummah and alhamdulillah I am part of it. La ilaha ila Allah!

December 12, 2009

Clients from HELL!


In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Peace be with you السلام عليكم

lol. I got this link from NoortheNinjabi from Adventures of a Ashkenazi-Muslim-Aesthetician as she was venting about trifling clients. I am not gonna lie. I MAY have said some of the things on there at one point or another. I NOW KNOW BETTER!! I promise!

But in my defense I was a BROKE college student learning the ropes. Due to my naivete and mostly because I was broke I learned to build websites and stuff. Am now pretty darn good. Enjoy.



December 11, 2009

100-year-old N.Y. child molester to be free

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

OH NO! OH NO! OH NO! This man is being released back in to the public even though he is STILL a threat to society. Please make du'a that Allah swt protects the children from this man and similar predators like him AMEEN.


This is what the person responsible for overseeing this man had to say:
'Unrepentant heart'
But 10 years after his last arrest, as Sypnier prepared to shed the closely monitored lifestyle of the halfway house, its director warned that the spry and active Sypnier has not changed from the manipulator who used his grandfatherly charm to snare and rape victims as young as 4."

Whether he's 100 or 101 or 105, the same person that was committing these crimes 10, 25, 30 years ago still exists today and has an unrepentant heart," said the Rev. Terry King, director of Grace House, which has twice taken Sypnier in from prison. "He is someone that we as parents, as members of the community, any community, really need to fear."

Read MORE....

He even had the balls to say that he wants to meet the youngest member of his family! OMG! is he for real? I hope nobody lets him!
Six months after marking his 100th birthday in the Groveland Correctional Facility — becoming the first New York inmate to reach the milestone while incarcerated — the retired telephone company worker now says he wants to get to know the youngest members of a family that has disowned him...

...Sypnier initially pleaded guilty in 2000 to two counts of rape, 15 counts of sodomy and endangering the welfare of a child for molesting the Tonawanda girls, as well as three in Buffalo. An appeals court threw out the conviction in 2002 after Sypnier claimed he was confused at the time, leading to another plea the following year to a lesser charge.

Please keep his victims in your prayers and du'as.

I'VE BEEN BRAINWASHED!


In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Peace be with you السلام عليكم


What were my perceptions of Muslims, Arabs and Islam in general?
  • That they were backwards, dirty, violent people (and this was before 9/11)
  • That the religion spread by the sword (kinda ironic considering what the Spaniards did to Latin America and the MesoAmericans).
  • That they didn't contribute ANYTHING to society.
  • NAME ONE INNOVATION? (NONE as they didn't contribute to society)
  • That they lost Spain because they were fat and lazy
  • That Europeans are sophisticated and civilized NOT like them as they were barbarians.
  • All scientific innovation started with the Greeks and continue onwards with the Europeans and finally Americans.
  • That the best empire to ever exist was the Roman.
  • That the Islamic life cannot be achieved because it is unattainable. Capitalism, however, is where is AT!
I am embarrased to admit that I STILL held some of those misconceptions until TONIGHT! OH SUBHANALLAH! I am so ashamed of that. I owe this awakening to sister Sarah Plain And Short from the blog S.O.S~Save Our Sunnah. As I was watching the documentary I started hearing the same thing as above being given by the Europeans. I bought the bait, hook, line and sinker! SubhanaAllah. All those years of being a history buff for nothing. I was just spitting back what I was thought in school. Even my AP Spanish classes reinforced those same message.

Watching the documentary was eye opening.

MUSLIMS WERE AWESOME!

technically we are STILL awesome but am talking about the historical Muslims. They were so civilized, so clean, so inventive. I WANT MORE! I want to learn more about my ummah and not through translations either. I want to read it in the original Arabic. There were a couple of inconsistencies that my hubs pointed out and a couple of outright LIES but I guess it comes with the territory if Muslims wont produce and are just consumers of documentaries. This ummah is so great there HAS to be talented producers out there that will make films like these for us. We need to start supporting our arts again! They also mentioned that during the Ottoman empire the Ottomans kept Christian scribes around and paid them to write down and copy Muslim writings. I don't know about you but if I was just conquered no matter how benevolent the new overlords might be, I would STILL rebel by messing with their writings. Adding an extra word here or removing a crucial piece there. It could just be my mistrust of using labor of conquered people Allahu Alim.

Do you know what I found super amazing? that the mongols destroyed a lot of the Muslim world (I cried when they ransacked Baghdad and all that knowledge and lives lost) yet in the end they became Muslim. ALLAHU AKBAR! It is truly Allah swt plan. We can plan all we want but ultimately he is the best of planners.

I also cried when the poems of some of the crusaders who massacred the people of Jerusalem were read. One of the poems went like "when the beautiful girls hide their faces in their hands out of shame." I knew what they meant. My only consolation is that inshaAllah those women will be rewarded for their pain, suffering and patience. Also those who were responsible for the blood shed and injustice are already dead and their day of judgment has begun. I DO NOT ENVY THEM.

By the way something not taught in school was that the Crusaders did not kill Muslims ONLY. They ransacked and killed Christians and Jews too. In one account they went into the Church of the Holy Sepulchre and murdered the Christians who were worshiping there. I was confused because I thought there would be some camaraderie since they shared a faith but they only saw the Christians of Jerusalem as "foreigners" which was ironic since THEY were the foreigners. On their way back to Europe they even ransacked Constantinople a Christian strong point.

Anyway I want the Muslims to study their history and realize that we had it going on and if we turn back to Allah we can still have it. Some of us have lost our sense of a global community of our Muslim identity.

Islam: Empire of Faith. Part 1: Prophet Muhammad and rise of Islam


Islam: Empire of Faith. Part 2: The Awakening


Islam: Empire of Faith. Part 3: The Ottomans


Say it with me LA ILAHA ILA ALLAH

December 10, 2009

Raising Boys and Due Diligence


In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Peace be with you السلام عليكم

If my son ever reads this blog he will probably be VERY embarrassed but I must post about this topic as I am passionate about it.
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Most if not all Muslim parents circumcise their baby boys nearly immediately after birth. This is how I feel about it.


DO NOT HAND OVER YOU BRAND NEW BABY BOY TO THE FIRST IDIOT THAT WALKS THROUGH YOUR DOOR!!
omg! Do you realize that some hospitals DO NOT use anesthesia when performing circumcisions or do not wait long enough for the anesthesia to take place. I birthed at home so I didn't have to worry about it and I interviewed people to make sure that they were QUALIFIED and with EXPERIENCE as well as REFERRALS. You think this is a joke but it isn't! Its not like it will grow back and its no big deal. They only get ONE and we are thier custodians so do your due diligence. In high school I remember being forced to watch the story of a man who's circumcision had gone terribly wrong and a decision was made to raise him as a girl including giving him hormones. AGAIN, this is an extreme example but it is the example SEARED in to my brain.

Think about it this is very important aspect of being male and it will eventually have repercussions when he is old enough to get married. I know its gross to go there but lets be serious about body parts that don't belong to us. Also most parents don't go into the operating room with their baby boys. How else are you going to make sure it is done right? Do you realize that the people performing the operation are more careful when they think they are being watched?

We live near a very large Orthodox Jewish community with a hospital that had an excellent reputation. I wanted to make sure my son got the very best, most experienced individual OUT THERE. After interviewing people I realized that having my newborn in a hospital setting wasn't going to fly, specially since he would have an open wound and am scared of infections.

We started interviewing mohels (a Jewish man who has practice doing circumcisions) and ended up with a woman mohel. She was highly recommended by both my midwives (one of them was a practicing Jew and she knew her and said that the mohel was also practicing) and other mothers. She was very kind to me and calmed me down when I was freaking out about the whole thing. I also liked that she had an indepth post circ care set up and she and I bonded over having the same fears.

My son had his circumcision done at home with topical anesthesia by a professional, board certified nurse and mohel while being comforted by his father (14 days after he was born). There was no way I could be in the room at all. I was torn because I had just gone through an un medicated, gentle birth and I was about to let someone cut my baby. The moment it was done I ran to my son and nursed him.

She gave me instructions on how to take care of it. THANK GOD she told me NOT to add more anesthesia when she left (I was about to do it) as it burns the skin if there is an opening. She gave me her cell phone and house number where I could reach her if there were any complications. The circumcision my husband said was performed very quickly and neatly. My son urinated normally and nursed normally. I was shocked at how normal he was as I was expecting non stop crying. He healed in less than a week. SubhanaAllah.

little info on mohels
The mohel is specially trained in circumcision and the rituals surrounding the procedure. Many mohelim are doctors or rabbis (and some are even both) or cantors. However, all are required to receive appropriate training both from the religious and medical fields.
I also found out that the board that certified her for circs had a rule that before they accredit you the potential mohel must perform a circumcision on their own child or someone related to them. I felt more comfortable choosing someone like that because I felt they would be more careful with my son. (and yes I did make sure she had credentials)

I BEG YOU that if you give birth in the hospital PLEASE don't hand your baby off to the first person that comes knocking. Do your research and please don't leave your child alone while the procedure is being done.

[edit] she also had over 20 years (close to 30yrs) of experience. I prayed istikhara about it and I felt very good with my decision. Tie your camel and trust in Allah swt.

December 9, 2009

Raising Children and Difference Between RESPECT and Submission

In the name of Allah, compassionate & merciful بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيمِ
Peace be with you السلام عليكم

I think there is a difference between respect and submission. I WILL teach my son to respect his elders but I will NOT teach him that he has to submit to every single thing they demand. I think most abuse happens because children are confused, they are taught to respect their elders so they loose their voice when that adult decides to abuse the child.

What are they to do? To say no to them is to disobey them and his parents have taught him that we MUST respect them and that Allah swt will punish him for disobedience. See the conflicting message with devastating consequences? I have encountered people who think that to speak to a child about sexual abuse is to rob them of their innocence and hayaat (natural shyness). I think nothing robs a child faster of their innocence or their hayaat BUT to be a victim of sexual abuse.

I think there is a way to teach children about this touchy topic without scarring them or making them afraid of everything that goes bump in the night or ashamed of either their sexuality or sex in general. I am still doing my research on how I will bring this topic up to my son and at the moment I am getting a lot of verbal attacks from some people. You see my son has just entered the fear of strangers phase in his development and yes, it's totally natural. Ok so my son goes to the people he knows but throws a fit when people just come up to his face and try to take him from either me or my hubs. I WILL NOT teach my son to go against his natural instincts nor ridicule him for something that is completely natural.

That is his defense mechanism why should I stop it? He feels threatened, he doesn't know the person and they are invading his space. If we did that to any adult am sure they will push back and not respond as kindly as they expect my son to react. With the exception of the midwives that delivered him, the mohel that performed the circumcision, and the doctors when he was hospitalized my hubs and I are the only ones that have seen him naked or touched him in his nether regions. I also don't change him in public even if I am at a gathering I find the most secluded (Safe) area to change him. He is a person after all and he is entitled to his privacy. It may sound extreme to some of you but I do want him to know that there are a select group of people who can see him naked and another group that is no ok. I think it will be easier to teach him about boundaries later on if I start introducing them now.

Anyway some people have told me that my son has to be submissive to his elders and I told them HELL TO THE NO! He will be respectful because it is SUNNAH to be respectful but that is it. Does anyone know where I am coming from?

Followers