October 6, 2009

Mama, I am Waiting for you in Jannah

SUBHANALLLAH! I fear being told that my son wont make it. One of my worst nightmares is waking up to find my little dude gone. I think most people could relate to the fear of loosing a loved one and parents can torture themselves to no end. I got an email today from Al Maghrib and that fear came right back. It was especially REAL because one of my hubs family member just passed away today (inalillahi wa ina illayhi rajiuun). May Allah swt forgive him for his sins, ameen. May Allah swt allow him to answer the 3 questions we will all be asked correctly, ameen. May Allah swt make his journey easy ameen. His day of judgment has begun people *shudders*. I hope our duahs are answered so that he wont receive any punishment in the grave.

The fam is very faraway and there is no way we can make it to the janaza. Please keep him in your duas.

Here is the email I received.

Assalamu alaikum,
The loss of a baby is an unthinkable trial, yet an undeniable truth. At the blow of first shock, the mother is struck with a tidal wave of questions, thoughts, and emotions that none can understand except her Lord. Her world shrinks, her heart hurts, and all matters suddenly become trivial.
With such a whirlpool of emotions, what is the single most crucial lifesaver to pull a mother out from an ocean of sadness?

"The title of this Ilminar alone brings tears to my eyes. I want to do a lecture that may, by the permission of Allah, be a source of comfort for parents all over the world who have experienced the loss of a loved on. These are REAL issues that do not normally get addressed. I intend to champion it. Please invite your friends and family to RSVP."

- Muhammad Alshareef
Saturday, October 24 | 6:45pm (NY Time)


AlabasterMuslim said...

I'll be listening, thank you for telling about it!
May your husbands family find peace in such turmoil, and may the family member who has passed away have the qur'an as his companion in the grave along with a window to see in the jennah. May you see him jennah also. ameen!

Please make dua for my husbands grandfather...he's in the intensive care at the moment.

btw, when you say that anyone younger than 14 you wear hijab in front of...but at what age do you not wear hijab in front of them?

.::Tuttie::. said...

If the child is younger than 8 I wont wear hijab in front of them even if I don't know them. 9 year old...I have to know them. If they are 10 and older I wear hijab no matter how well i know them.

My rationalization was that if they need to be separated from sleeping with their siblings and asked to start praying I think I should wear hijab in front of them. Not necessarily a fancy shmancy hijab it could be the a loose one as long as it covers my hair and chest.

If I had a 10 year old bil I would wear the hijab just so that he can start being sensitive about hijab and hopefully he will learn on to respect it. When I got married a lot of his cousins weren't doing hijab and by that I mean they had mixed gender gatherings. After I came in to the family, the men became more sensitive about walking into a room without first announcing themselves. ONce I started wearing the niqab (about 3-4 months in) full hijab was observed by all even though some women would still go in to the brother gatherings and try to touch my husband (that's for another post though)

AlabasterMuslim said...

I like your rationalization, makes sense. You wear niqab? Since when? What is it like? I have wanted to wear niqab for a long time. Could you tell me about your experiences with niqab?