October 2, 2009

I am curious...

How many of you co-sleep?
If so did you come into it with an exit strategy?


10 comments:

Maz said...

Salaam alakum sister,

I do co-sleep with my kids. My husband and I slept with our first daughter for the first 6 months of her life. She was a needy baby, had everything from colic to reflux and would not sleep on her own. Well actually, she never slept during the day. You could take her out in her buggy for hours she would not sleep and I am not joking. She would sleep in the sling though.
Bottom line is, my first daughter spent the best part of her first year in our bed although she had her own bed & bedroom (although to be fair her cot was in our bedroom for the first 15 months of her life).
After that, I would stay next to her until she felt asleep, most of the time holding her hand.
As she grew older, I would still stay with her but without holding her hands, sometimes just sitting in the room.
She'll be 5 in January and there are still nights when she asks me to stay with her for a little while.
I don't mind. She's my daughter and i don't know how long Allah will grant any of us.
I did not really have to sleep with my second daughter as she would fall asleep all by herself, sometimes even whilst playing. I still go and pick her up at night when she cries (she's 11 months old) and wants to be comforted and bring her to bed with us until she falls asleep again and then put her back in her bed.
I've heard lots of comments about co-sleeping (mostly negative) but it works/ed for me. Enjoy that precious time with your son and do take him to bed with you if you wish. Children really do grow up to quickly. Salaam

ZORRO said...

I did co-sleep with my first one, and he did fine when it was time for him to go to his room... he's always been the independent type. I don't co-sleep with my 7 month old now... and he seems to be more 'needy' than the first one.. "go figure"!! :D

Sarah said...

i had my son with me for the first 2 months until he slept throught the night. alhumdulillah he is okay sleeping in his crib. sometimes he sleeps with us if he's sick or we've all stayed up too late late and he wont sleep by himself.

.::Tuttie::. said...

i read a lot of negative things about co sleeping and was frighten by it. Until I looked around me and realized that both my community back in my moms country and the one in the USA (both Muslim and Non Muslim) co sleep with no incidents.

We gave it a try and loved it. The cutest thing I have ever seen is the two men in my life cuddling it out in the morning while still sleeping. too cute. alhamdulillah.

AlabasterMuslim said...

My mother co-sleeps with my brother and sister, but now its really hard for them to sleep in their own bed, which is the only thing that was wrong with it. I don't think i'll sleep with my children for that reason, and my husband doesn't want to either (his brother and sister sleep on the living room couch every night, it drives him crazy...!)
But when i would sleep in a room with my family my little brother would snuggle with me SO CUTE!

Candice said...

I co-slept... I didn't plan on it. I had the crib in my room beside my bed for the first 3 months and then found myself without TV so when I woke up at night to breastfeed, I was just falling asleep on the chair all the time. I decided to bring her into my bed when she woke up, and I would wake up to put her back in her crib when she was done. With time, she started sleeping with me full time. She still sleeps with me sometimes at 2 years old, but she's getting used to her big bed and used to sleeping alone.

Candice said...

Wanted to add that I had a really good experience with it. But when she was 6 months and her dad (my husband) arrived in the country, he found it difficult to have his place be the baby's... And he was not comfortable with it. Just make sure your partner is OK with it or you might wind up sleeping in different beds. And that's not very good for a marriage!

Stacy aka Fahiima said...

We are gradually weaning Layla off co-sleeping. During most of her infancy she was either in our bed or in a crib right next to it. Now she's still in our room, but she has a bed right up against the side of ours. If she gets up to cuddle or nurse, she's usually to go right back to her bed in a couple mins. I'm too paranoid to have her in the other room yet. We sleep with a fan on, so I'm not sure if I would even hear her wake up until she got frantic. I don't want to bother with a baby monitor either because she's already almost 2. Our plan is to have her in the other room by the time she's 3. That way we hopefully won't take the chance of having 2 babies sleeping with us at the same time. Co-sleeping was the only thing that saved my sanity with Layla as she woke up probably 10x a night when she was really little.

Jennifer said...

All of my family has co-slept. the more I think of it, sleeping separately is almost unheard of in my culture. there's never been an issue with dependence but I find that as they get older, children will flop just about anywhere if they're tired enough.

Freckle said...

We've always co-slept with our baby girl. She's almost 2 and in no way about to move out (and to be honest: I don't want her to!!). I love snuggling with her and I love when she rolls over (she sleeps in the middle now, but I found it was safer for her to sleep on my side near the wall when she was tiny---er) to cuddle her dad. She says "Oh, Baba" and snuggles right up to him. It's the best. I heard so many bad things about it but my hub's family all do it with their kids in Palestine and my dad said that's how all kids used to sleep once upon a time. It's true: it's only the last 50yrs or so (don't quote me on that) that we've had to be putting kids in their own rooms etc. It's lovely to sleep in the same bed as your baby :) We go to bed together but then she sleeps there alone while I go back to watch tv or write or whatever.

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